think about all the other areas this is happening to which is a lot of what your book is talking about. omi frozen or are you frozen? somebody froze. >> a loss to your back now. >> i do not know where you lost me. >> your time but the other areas and i will just bring up one part i'm just reading a great book by an author name sonora on how to raise a feminist son. a perfect example of this place where the degree to which we have centered the patriarchal story. the example she gives, this is really important for people with kids, we teach all of our daughters to be on guard against a rape against sexual abuse, against assaults. their behaviors might be re- be buried we assume the boys go on with their life the way they aren't everyone else has to adjust to that story. that is just neutral. that is a privileging one particular story, making that the protagonist and therefore making it the center of the story. the fact that is exactly right. they're a a couple quotes that i gasped at. this is one of them. you said come to this and i announce my feminist intentions for the whole family regular