oxley's ex-wife, alyssa's mother.than a few gossipers pointed fingers at melissa, ben's best friends told each other -- >> everything in me said that dawn had something to do with that. >> of course, just a few years back that sort of thinking would have been unimaginable to dawn and ben's best friends scott and cindy graham. not dawn. dawn, the force of nature, the center of any room she was in. >> i don't know if it's manipulating or what, but everybody agreed with dawn. as long as dawn was happy, then we were all happy. >> but after five years of marriage, neither ben nor dawn was happy. and the marriage went up in flames. >> ben had cheated on dawn. i could see that. this probably wasn't going to be something that she was ever going to get over. >> dawn changed after that, said cindy, didn't seem to want to act like a parent anymore. >> she met a guy and she would stay the night at his house. i mean, when her kids are calling us up saying, we don't have any food in the house, can you come and bring us food? there'