. >> so you are saying that oxy tocin, the oxytocin that helps with the bonding and the prairie volesof that. >> yes. >> stephen: so if you have a man who is a total horn dog and always sleeping around, if you gave him some oxy tocin would he settle down with the right woman? >> well, it is an interesting question which we really don't know-- we don't actually know the answer to. >> stephen: have we tried it on humans yet. >> yes, we have. >> stephen: and what happens. >> here is the interesting thing. and one of the most striking findings it is that does seem to have an effect on levels of trust. and so that individuals who have oxytocin administered to them will show greater trusting behavior in a particular sort of situation or game. >> stephen: when you say the self as brain, i think of my soul as myself, are you saying that i don't have soul? >> (applause) i don't know much about our nervous system but i know you have some nerve to come on stable. patricia, thank you very much for joining me. (cheers and applause) >> stephen: the book is touching a nerve. and she did. we'llcia ch

it releases oxytocin lowering your stress levels. >> okay. tell me this. >> all right. >> if we're having the problem, the women want different ways of working. >> and that is right. someone comes in. >> right. >> and we're going to do things differently now because women are here. the men are mentally rolling their eyes. >> in the beginning, they roll their eyes and they go really? really? women are really different? >> are they resisting it? >> they resist until you point it out to them. that is hard to get in the door. >> and then they have a change of habit, john. >> men are so flexible. women don't understand men at all. if a man says i can build a better toaster, he'll do it. if he can be convinced what the book does, it shows men what value women bring to the table and the gold mine that men are missing. for example, this is an example. >> okay. >> and five people sitting at a table and two women, three men. kicking the ball back and forth. one woman has higher testosterone and is jumping in. there is a big conversation and two women a