my cousin larry and his family are here from paducah, what do you do?into the home and make sure you get someplace settings all ready and together for them and you try to accommodate them as best that you can. beforehand, though, it is best if your cousin who invited larry and everyone from paducah would call and say, hey, i have some unexpected guests. i can't make it. then you as a host can say, oh, no, we would be happy to accommodate them. if you do that kind of host/guest dance, everyone will feel comfortable and no one will feel imposed. >> so if you're doing the rsvping and all that stuff, as the host, good to check in a couple of days. you're good to go, we're happy to see you, blah, blah, blah, that way if there are any surprises -- >> exactly. rsvp is not dead. use it. >> use it. the other situation, we talk about this a lot, and there are so many kids these days, even adults, that have all kinds of food issues. what do you do about that? >> you definitely -- it is the guest's responsibility when they rsvp to say to their host, hey, i'm allerg