the idea of culture and parenting is something that i was very interested in and i know that pamela zuckermans out that in france the parenting advice is still taken very seriously and she finds out all five of his children ended up in orphanages. i found that to be a really kind of fascinating point that here we have today emily oscar who i know i i'm like very much but in france they are reading other attacks not just about parenting philosophy but aspects of national policy. there are other books that tend to take you out of the american parenting mode and make you think about what it would be like to parent not just in a place that is kind of familiar trust like france but in a place where research really is scarce and mothers are constantly dealing with unthinkable and hellacious situations. is it took called death without -- which is about life but also a lot about mothering and parts of brazil and is just stunning to imagine the things that people endure routinely and somehow we are told to endure but that don't seem to be in our modern privileged mom times. >> here's a nice comment. t