and parents are teachers and they teach other parents how to do things for their kids and you have setgh bar and i am grateful that you are coming to the district to do this work with us. and in partnership, thank you for being patient with me over the years. and the struggles and sort of, you know the tensions that we have had to get to the right place to do the right thing, and it is so reflective again, in the restorative justice lead that you have taken, which was wholly unexpected and too my great surprise is so much deeper because of you, because of you and i want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, ruth. >> thank you so very, very much. it is amazing, the work that you do and the people that you have touched. i will not ignore that. and i will not forget it ever. thank you. >> so, ruth, today's celebration, not only for the giants but for ruth, you know, this is a big deal. you know, i am sure pack is sad to lose you, but we are so happy to gain you, so to me, it is a celebration. and when i guess that we came in to this system about the same time eight years ago. and have

parents in one room, teens in another. are any of you nervous about your parents' reaction? >> yeah. >> carissa, you're nervous? >> yeah. >> when we met carissa four months ago, she described herself as cautious. >> i am a very careful driver. >> and she told us using her phone while driving was out of the question. >> you can't talk on your cell phone. obviously you can't text. >> was she able to stick to that rule? her mother's counting on it. >> i'm hoping no texting and driving. that's supposed to be one of our rules. >> carissa's mom was in a serious accident a few years ago when a driver blew through a four-way stop sign. >> the car was smashed up right to where i was sitting. so if my kids would have been with me they would not be here today. >> so this is much more personal having this camera installed in your car. >> yes, it is very serious. >> so how seriously has carissa taken all of her mother's warnings? >> red light, red light, red light -- >> reporter: in the video from inside her car, again and again carissa is nabbed using her phone while she's driving. a di

around the parent's addiction. so rather than the child getting what they need developmentally, the family is really kind of putting the child's needs last in order to keep the family just functioning. so that sometimes means that children are actually flipping roles with their parents and becoming parentified, where they are in a role that is not appropriate for them. the lines of authority are not clear or they change, depending on whether the parent is high or not high. so there is a lot of inconsistency for children. so, fran, let me go back. a child that is within one of these families, they're dealing with a problem many of them themselves in order to adapt, either develop a mental or a substance use pattern themselves. how-what happens in that dynamic? i think kim described it very well with the total dysfunction of the family and the family, if we don't intervene and find ways to go in and bring services to help them, the child can then get so confused and so frustrated from trying to be a parent and being

i am lori and also a parent with a child with special needs and a parent mentor and board member of supportor families and eight years ago and juno and this organization was the bridge that we needed to make sure my daughter had the most hopeful brightest future and i really rely on the organization and see the work they're doing and the bridges they're building and thank you for being an equal partner in that and i wish everyone who has a love one with a question about a child with special needs or health care issues and please go on line and go to support for families with children with disabilities and thank you so much for acan advo scat for us. it's wonderful. >> thank you. >> okay. that was fun. going rld is delegate's report. it's windy ly and megan wong. >> student body and theresa quinnian are having anti-bullying day on october first and asking students across the district to support them by wearing blue. with all the recent work the district has done to stop dullying we would love for everyone to keep the momentum up and support this day. >> our nearly elected has updated the soc

supervisor campos: thank you. >> i am a parent.ust want to say that i support everything that the other parents have said. the waiver is very important this year for all of the confusion and lack of communication. i have no idea where my son is going to go. we are in district 5. there is no school in district 5 anywhere close to me. i will have to drive my child across town. some of the transitional kindergartens have no idea what -- what the program will be. how am i supposed to make a decision on where to send my child when they do not know what they are going to be offering? it is not even close to my house. i turned in and acceptance, but i would rather send my son to a school in my neighborhood where i live near 4 very fine schools. i was hoping that was what we would get in the original plan to writ given what has happened to the many of the parents who do want the waiver, we really need the waiver this year. parents will have a lot more information next year. we were not able to plan at all three i was touring kindergartens

>> parents say, it's important to be honest, don't lie.ut we don't give them a context of what that looks like. so cheating is a specific way of being dishonest. so i would be very specific with kids about what honesty looks like to you. >> hello. >> she tells kids point blank cheating equals lying. so in this case it's a learning experience for both mother and son. >> you've got a voice. use it. try to make a wrong into a right. it's easy to get sucked into a bad situation. >> yeah. >> but this situation came up again. are you going to remember what happened here? >> i would probably tell them to stop. >> probably? >> no, i will tell them to stop. >> good lesson learned. good job. want to get some ice cream? >> but there's another group of kids waiting in the wings and this time the cheating escalates to a whole new level. >> should i just search the answers? >> coming up -- >> you've cheated so much. >> it's not that big of a deal. >> oh, but it is. >> this is an nbc "dateline" show that we're doing about cheating and you ♪ [ female anno

helping other parents. you know, the formal system is extremely important to be there with treatment and with recovery supports, but the power of what erica is doing with reaching out and really offering that "i've been there, i understand. you can do it. i did it." and someone said to me that what they really got when they were engaged with the parent partner was hope. that their life could change. that their family could change. that they could parent their children and that there was a way out. because in the depths of the addiction or the mental illness, you really don't see what's the path, "how do i get out of this?" "what is there besides jail or besides institutions?" so the power of mutual aid, i don't think can be understood-or understated rather. can i add something to that? we've been talking a lot about prevention and some of about treatment, but i always like to say one of my mantras is after care should not be an afterthought. we're talking about the continuum of family recovery, and so for t

they should talk to a parent and let them know what is going on so the parent can intervene.portant that students understand that it's not tatt lichk or snitching. we can't help them if we don't understand. >> cheryl: do you have success stories? >> there are fabulous things going on in alameda county right now. unified started talking off the year and showed the movie of bully to students and right now students are developing posters that they are using all over the district. they are developing their own anti-bully messages and using student language to talk about it. >> cheryl: is the idea to punish the perpetrator, the bully? how do you deal with the bully? >> the idea to prevent bullying as much as you can. we give students and people tools to help with the issue. i think when we find out that a student has been bullied it's important to work with the student that has been victimized but to work with them separately. the balance of power i talked about earlier can be played out and brings them together. i think working with them separately and getting to the root of issu

they should talk to a parent and let them know what is going on so the parent can intervene.s important that students understand that it's not tatt lichk or snitching. we can't help them if we don't understand. >> cheryl: do you have success stories? >> there are fabulous things going on in alameda county right now. unified started talking off the year and showed the movie of bully to students and right now students are developing posters that they are using all over the district. they are developing their own anti-bully messages and using student language to talk about it. >> cheryl: is the idea to punish the perpetrator, the bully? how do you deal with the bully? >> the idea to prevent bullying as much as you can. we give students and people tools to help with the issue. i think when we find out that a student has been bullied it's important to work with the student that has been victimized but to work with them separately. the balance of power i talked about earlier can be played out and brings them together. i think working with them separately and getting to the root of

parents can opt out with a personal beliefs exemption. this new law doesn't change that. it makes the process a bit tougher. parents will have to talk to a licensed healthcare practitioner and get a signature first. >> we want them to get the real facts rather than things they hear from internet or friends and family without hearing both sides of the story. >> reporter: the director of the department of pediatrics at valley medical center is surprised, at the last moment governor brown anded a religious exemption. parents with religious beliefs ruling out vaccinations don't have to jump through this hoop. >> perhaps with this new exception added to it, the bill won't be as effective. >> reporter: even so this new mom thinks it's a good idea. >> your relationship with your pediatrician is a partnership. >> reporter: dr. kim mulvihill, cbs 5, healthwatch. >>> from stanford university researchers say a virus may be able to stop an aggressive form of breast cancer. the research involved adding a tumor fighting protein to a harmless smallpox-type virus and giving it to mice wi

safer on the bus than in any parent's car. one of the main reasons seat belts aren't required. >> we've been able to create the safest vehicle on the road, statistics prove that, but the drivers have to understand they're driving a large, medium to heavy duty vehicle and have to practice defensive driving. so, we're not happy but i really think this will be an important message to all bus drivers. >> reporter: a bus driver clearly this bus driver in new york had not heard. she wasn't speeding, but her students can tell she's been drinking. >> you can't passed the turn. >> what turn? >> the turn off this road. >> reporter: the on-board camera confirms the kid's suspicion. the driver is out of control. >> you have to stop. you have to stop. >> reporter: as the kids press, the driver's voice slurs more and more. >> you're not okay and i know it. just turn it off, please. >> no. >> you can't -- turn the bus off! >> no! >> reporter: finally, the kids take their safety into their own hands and escape through the rear exit. >> you ca

the parent.rica trajillo said she needed truancy court to lay down the law with her boys. >> i think it was just maybe the kids got a little scared just coming in front of a judge because they have never come in front a judge. >> reporter: celeste's case was dismissed because of perfect attendance. she has advice for other kids. >> go to school and catch up on everything and like never miss a day because then they are going to go through what i had to. >> reporter: does it work? >> yes, it works. i think so. i think it works really good. and i'm glad they have it. >> reporter: they don't have any numbers to prove whether or not this court is working but anecdotally they are hearing that more parents are taking it more seriously that they are trying to make that effort to get their children to school and on time. in fairfield, ann notarangelo, cbs 5. >>> well, paul, looks like we are going to have the full gamut in the weather forecast. warm starting warm? >> and then working our way down to coole

. >>> well, parents work hard to keep their kids safe, right? but some dangers lurk where you might not see them. >> coming up, how a local father tracked down an internet predator who was talking to his son. and this father's mission to make other parents aware of predators. we'll be right back with tim loda. right now it'9:10. we'll return.  [ male annououncer ] we the people, the middle class, who move our country forward, work hard, raise families, and keep america strong. but mitt romney's budget plan will hurt the middle class, s on the average family by up to $2,000, raise families, and keep america strong. while giving a tax break of $250,000 to multimillionaires. doesn't mitt romney understand we can't rebuild america by tearing down the middle class. priorities usa action is responsible for the content of this advertising. barack obama and the liberals already have. to pay for government-run healthcare, you'll pay higher taxes and more for your medicine. and their plan includes a trillion dollars in higher taxes. even

as a child by my parents, it's very common. when i was researching this topic, i learned that 80% and of the latin american children in u.s. schools get separated from the parent in the process of migration so that as a is a whole lot of kids that are being separated from parents who are coming here as undocumented child emigrants. so definitely my experience is not unique but there is not a whole lot of awareness or when people talk about immigration, very seldom do they cons

to be reunited with their parents. and we don't talk about how immigration breaks up families and how it takes a toll on the whole family. so this is one of the reasons why i wanted to write about this because it is something -- it's an experience that defel

there are a wealth of parents facing organizations in the city, magic coleman, parents for public schools and a number of others. please use us as content experts. as you continue to investigate this matter addressing academic achievement, opportunities for african americans, youth and other target groups as well. thank you. >> thank you very much. (applause) >> next speaker, please. >>> hi, there. [speaker not understood] shackle ford. i'm with the san francisco youth commission. right now i'm speaking as myself. we haven't made a formal comment on this. we all have our own joint educational committee with the sac and youth commissioners who are interested in education and they're very interested in this issue. you'll probably hear from us at some point. but i just wanted to bring up for a second the accessibility of these programs because having more doesn't really mean figure if they're not accessible. at my school you have to pay $60 for. so, if you want to take an internet or credit course, you're told you have to pay $60. * anything i'm sure there is a service that lets low-income y

i want to persuade the young woman's parents to give the chance to make her own decision. point out that abduction is a criminal offense but kidnappers given sri years in prison by contrast people who still. put behind bars for eleven years. and members of the hall and others even came out and said nice you can need to. get a live in here is for cattle rustling is a complete and utter far as was less and she. mind you they voted in favor of legislation against stealing sheep in the first reading. campaign is from open line take to the streets to tell young women what they should do with abducted not to be afraid of anything and to immediately go to the police. do you know want to do if you're abducted do other goes no. i don't think they do because they stay on in many cases. do you know what is the right thing to do case you were abducted. we want to scream and shout let me go. we've heard a lot of different stories some of the more astounding simply because they are routine and somebody comes in kidnaps them that's the end of it you begin wondering whether such tradition

as a security is wedding draws to a close serene of the bride been her parents or tearful goodbye. joint see them for over a week after the ceremony the bride to be taken to a new husband's house and kept in a room for seven days the young wife will have to spend all that time with her husband so she can get to know him she's never even kissed him and braced him or held his hand before what's more nor one of the guests can be certain that the groom has ever even proposed as arena or if he simply kidnapped. am. i am. veneer a customer was also a bride once over there was no white dress or limousine at her wedding veneer or lived with her husband for only a week then she ran away to hang herself. everyone was trying to persuade her that living together would be ok and this boy was also trying hard trying to talk rehearing into this marriage but says she wanted to give it a try however that didn't work you heard. the story shocked veneer as fellow students of the state university in a sickle. as lira had been kidnapped not from the countryside or even a dark alley way but on her way h

worth as much when our parents gave it to us.the american institute of cpas. these are the average allowances. they go from about $6 a week for kids from 4 to 12 up to $35 a week for 18 to 24-year-olds. >> there's a 25-year-old getting an allowance? >> yeah, that is one of the problematic things out of this research. we know more 25-year-olds are back on their parents' couches. what i hope is that everybody who is giving their kid an allowance is also giving their kid a list of things the parent will no longer pay for. allowance only works when your kid has to take that sum of money and then manage it. if you're still handing them $5 here and $10 there, you're wasting your money. >> so the idea is interesting. the survey says 54% of parents started giving their kids allowance at 8 or younger. >> i think that's great. absolutely. kids can learn to make choices about how to allocate their resources at those young ages, just like they can make choices about what to wear in the morning. and if you've ever had a kid go with you to the

the parents of one of the dead young women a sick and tired of gossiping neighbors a mother keeps the house doors shut and shoes passes by a way she blames herself for her daughter's death the bridegroom stole the restoring the night after phoning to lure her away from the house he took her to his village where she was raped. she was taken by force. she didn't understand what was going on. she was the youngest daughter and she was a virgin. it still pains me here in my heart. when we came to take our daughter away sure if you. to go saying she was too ashamed to face all the people i felt she was. somehow left. was persuaded to flee by her sister after returning home talked with her mother throughout the night she spoke of her plans saying she wanted to go to bishkek but in the morning she hanged herself in a shed. in the criminal was convicted on three counts abduction rape and forced suicide but people in his native village feel justice was not done they say the girl died after being separated from the man she loved. would like to know what the bridegroom thinks about it all but so

that's about parent peer pressure. >> what parent doesn't do that?ry parent is compared to other parents. >> no, that's not true. i mean, there are parents, because listen, here's the reality of it. the risk of maintaining this paradigm earlier is better, moore is better, push your kids, best schools. the risk of that has become so great that the world's organization says about 1 out of every 4 kids is suffering from full-blown anxiety and depression, 17% rate of cuts at our ivy league schools of self-mutilation. 25% of kids are substance abus abuse abusers. what do they rate as the greatest -- excuse me. >> we said wow. >> incredible. >> yeah, it is. it should be wow. because that's the real issue. you know, if we -- if i ended up being here saying to you, yeah, it's not such a great way to raise kids but they're turning out so well, that's one thing. it's not such a great way to raise kids because we squeezed out all the soft skills, getting along with people, being creative, knowing how to manage, being resilient. there's no time for it your 4-yea

nbc bay area's monty francis has reaction from parents and students. >> reporter: good evening.ved this letter from the principal telling them the existence of a fantasy slut league. apparently this has been an open secret with students here for years. the principal of piedmont high school says what's known to students as the fantasy slut league has been in existence for five to six years and discovered during a freshmen assembly on date rain prevention. >> no girl that i know from the high school wants to be called a slut or be part of that. >> school officials say varsity athletes set up the fantasy league and according to the letter from the principal, our female students unbeknownst to most of them are drafted as part of the league. male students get points for engagement with female students. this parent finds the idea galling. >> it is upsetting to the find out this is going on at the high school. i trust my daughter, but i would be really, really upset to know that it were anything that she was unknowingly part of. >> reporter: her daughter is a junior at the high school

that the parents are just phenomenally great and now i will sit down and be quiet. so much. [ applause ] >> thank you, miss whitney. well deserved. and at this point, i would like to ask orla okief to come forward to introduce to us the rave special service award winners. >> good evening, superintendants and commissioners. i am pleased to be able to announce this awart for the student nutrition team of wilkens and orteza who have been nominated by their colleagues and i would like to read out in what was shared in congratulating them and thanking them for their support. they were nominated because they secured a donation and i don't know if you would like to come here and wait that will be great while we sing your praises. you can feel comfortable. and that they secured a donation 3,000 lunches and snacks for the third annual sf promise college, and career expo and they did not only save more than $5,000, but the donation was delivered and supervised and they helped to supervise the distribution of the meals and some of the qualities, are examplely follow through, a

both of your parents were teenagers. you were born to teenage parents. we talk the last time that your mom to keep to haiti because she wanted you to understand poverty and the other side of privilege when you're just a kid. by solo that about your mom, that she exposed due to that -- i still love that about your mom, this exposed you to that. but you were born to teenage parents. nowadays, there is no guarantee that you will not make it. but both your parents were teenagers. that is a step which ago. >> especially now, as a parent, i am 41 years old and i feel that burden of that responsibility of being a parent. it is a lot of weight. it is hard enough to get up in the morning for yourself. pickoffs but to get up then tried -- but to try to get up and try to create a world where the young people can thrive. adversity builds character. you hate to hear it, but it is true. my mother, she works now in eastern europe. she has dedicated her life -- her grandfather really worked hard for civil rights in texas when she was growing up. he fought the plan will

the same video that when she grows she's abducted and decides to flee the doctor's house her parents are in two minds about her decision. to come back want to know why they refuse to. come home that's how we're trying to bring down. i don't want to dissuade the young woman's parents to give their daughter a chance to make her own decision just. point out that abduction is a criminal offense but kidnappers given sri years in prison by contrast people who still. put behind bars for eleven years. and members. even came out and said nice you can need to. get a live in here is for cattle rustling is a complete and utter fars was less and she. mind you they voted in favor of legislation against stealing sheep in the first reading. campaign is from open line take to the streets to tell young women what they should do with abducted they're told not to be afraid of anything and to immediately go to the police. do you know want to do if you're abducted do other girls know you. and i don't think they do because they stay on in many cases. do you know what is the right thing to do you were abduc

as a child by my parents, it's very common. i mean, when i was -- when i was researching this topic, i learned that 80% of the latin american children in u.s. schools get separated from a parent in the process of migration so, i mean, that's a whole lot of kids that are being separated from parents who are