they bring out the worst in each parent. >> that's true. >> 'cause each parent sits there and says, "well, if you did this differently, he wouldn't act out." and the other parent says, "no, no. if you did this differently, he'd be okay." and they don't look at the obvious problem-- the kid. the parents that i work with find the total transformation program to be a very exciting experience for them, because they stop asking themselves, "what am i doing wrong?" the total transformation program takes that pressure off. it's a very interesting process when parents stop saying, "is this my fault?" or "whose fault is this behavior?" and start saying, "this is my kid's problem. what can i do about it to help him change?" and put the responsibility back on that child. >> i can honestly say that if we had not found james lehman, it's quite possible that my husband and i would be divorced or separated right now. it had gotten to the point where it was almost impossible for me, and i feel like going to see james saved my family, >> now, what about a.d.d. or a.d.h.d., the hyperactivity disorders,

and (inaudible) what is going on between our parents. (inaudible) [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> and i feel like that you don't take serious about what happened in our schools. [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> so that is why the other day all of our parent leaves and we feel very disappointed. [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> and very disappointed because it seems like nobody really care about our problems. [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> i just want to know that is it because of the (inaudible) valley is a low income school and so that is why you don't really take serious about our problem? >> set to wrap up, thank you. >> hello,... >> i just want to say two words. >> yeah. >> [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> since that time we cannot tell you that many... [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> okay, so i really want the board can take serious about the problem in our school and i will let you know that after this summer our parents will come again. thank you. >> so i was asking the superintendent, just superi

you have two parents. your parents should stay parents. you should stay a kid and enjoy your life. >> another one is "i am not your messenger." >> you know, sometimes two parents still live in the same house, or they can't talk to each other. and they put you on the phone. they say, "you talk to daddy. i can't talk to daddy." well, it's just not right. >> although divorce is difficult for everyone in the family, dr. banschick says most kids end up adjusting pretty well. >> i'm fine with my parents being divorced now. >> if a teen has a friend whose parents are divorcing, what's the best way to be helpful? >> be her friend. she's not a martian, okay? do what you normally do with her. however, if she starts to talk about the divorce, open your ears and listen. one last thing -- if something looks like it's going wrong, like your friend is having a real problem -- i don't know, he wants to cut himself, or she wants to run away -- you know, you're going to have to go to an adult for help. >> that's some good advice. thank you for talking with

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they had faults like every other parent does. i know i would tell them that obviously that i'm sorry, that i love them, that i want to thank them for everything that they did for me growing up, and give them hugs, hugs and kisses and just embrace them, and go from there. i look forward to that. >> are you now receiving any kind of treatment or medication for any mental health issues? >> no, i'm not. years ago in 2004, i was on four different antidepressants and i was talking to psychologists. they don't have any regular therapy here where like you have on the street where you see a shrink once a week or something like that. you can put requests in to see a psychologist. but the main thing that has delivered me from this type of thinking, this mentality, this type of evil mentality and the thing that's really helped me with my mental health is my relationship with god. so in prayer, prayer works and it's really worked for me. he's really put a lot of love in my heart. that's what's really helped me out. i don't think like i used t

and i'm talking about pac but all of the other parents that you engage. and i think that the pac has really developed many of our parent leaders in through the pac and they have become great leaders in our schools and actually in our community and so i think that should be one of your accomplishments also and i know that you are going to continue with that good work throughout the year thank you very much. >> commissioner fewer that is something that we talk about quite a bit and we reflect on at the end of the year and i think that each of us felt that we achieved a great deal of personal growth but just through participation in the meetings and activities. >> i think that even through the reports that we receive is obvious that the parent leaders have grown from when they first start as they continue throughout the year and so good work. >> commissioner maufas? >> thank you, for presenting this work, it is clear on how much work that you have done, what is represented here on paper, can't even, i just can't even imagine all of the community members that

high name is lidy and i am a parent of (inaudible). and... and and (inaudible) [ speaking in a foreign language ] three years ago, vivy is a school with great reputation. and also, rewarded many times. among the staff, this year has won the national excellent teacher. >> the principal... [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> the formal principal mr. (inaudible) has worked well with the teachers and also the parents. and keep wonderful communication with all parties. and the students are learning a joyful learners and they make a wonderful academic performance. [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> but we think that it is two years. lots of experience and hard caring staff are or were not getting along with the principal and were forced to retire early. [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> finding the teachers are retiring all being fired, the parents and students are very confused and very concerned. [ speaking in a foreign language ] >> the parents and students cannot take those changes suddenly. and also the teachers are not teaching the s

with my parents my parents were coming to visiting day and there was, became very sassy and told my dad i was a grown up because i had a id bracelet from some cute guy. i got the look and my long hair and was as straight as it always has to be and i am doing my thing and here comes mom wearing soft sandals and has a bag, everyone getting snickers and m&ms and my mother says i brought some hardboiled eggs and reasons and the eggs are in their appeal and diffusion of the one they're not that hard. my father is wearing a straw hat which he wore every day in the summer. at some point he sleeps on my bed asleep and snoring with a yiddish paper over his face. that is really cool. i have no idea what i had to deal with. i was always ashamed and even if i was with religious people so few people came from the holocaust but also my parents who knew the rules and on the sabbath and was sitting with the rabbi's daughter and turned on the light and said you are not supposed to use electricity and she says you are not? you could never do this because -- the pinnacle that howard was bringing up, gradu

. >> item e, the parent advisory council report. i see the pac representative. >> good evening commissioners, thank you for the time, my name is tony talerico and my daughter just finished 4th grade at sunset elementary cool and i just finished my first year on the pac which from my report tonight you might find was an active and exciting year. the role is to support and implementation and this will summarize our work for the year and will highlight the projects for next year. you have in your attachments a chart on the last page to provide more details about the specific goals and attachments. we had a year of transition and celebration, in addition to meeting priet mare goals and objectivities of engaging parents in discussions about priority initiative and policies, we weathered a major staff change on the back and we held a mid year retreat and celebrated the 10th anniversary and back in may we celebrated that anniversary in ten years of bringing parent voices and super expectives through the board of education. we celebrated th

children do not pass before their parents. we began to see that the school, the high school in los gatos, led by a very strong, great principled people, brought in an organization to help and after all i should preface in 2009 was a brutal year for los gatos high school, they lost two other students shortly before jill died. the school and principal brought in a counseling group called cassie, counseling and support services for youth, embedded counseling. and their job was to change the culture, very much what we've heard today, change the culture to get rid of the stigma of mental health and understanding that a lot of these kids feel anxiety and stress, they need someone to talk to. they just don't have the perspective that an adult has. >> one of the things that struck me was the boys were interviewed, they knew they were in trouble, but i didn't hear them say i'm sorry, i shouldn't have sent the picture on. >> the three boys were arrested and they complied with a vuft stis program and part of that program was to write a l

and then the parents i was on the parents that episode. that was a new york family.hings that they allowed their children to getaway with without doing anything baffled mement i had to tell the parents if you want this behavior then you don't do anything. and then there's no sense in me being here but if you want them to change you have to change first. >> anderson: to stop a kid from hitting the parent? >> it was underlining reason. the kid was angry but he got angry too quick and when that happens it is an psychological issue that is happening. the father called the baby names. he called him names and he was angry and lashing out. i don't like when he calls me names this is how i will get him back. when you figure out the root then you can stop the issue. >> anderson: wow. you must get exhausted. >> oh, yeah. i am exhausted when i leave their hopefully it doesn't show on camera, but yeah i'm exhausted. and i have a secret. that is no longer a secret now, anderson. i use preparation h because i sleep -- >> anderson: on what? >> on my eyes. >> anderson: i've heard of

fine strong willed parents ready to take a handicapped child able to join their family today. yes i was brought up in this orphanage myself she's my family didn't last long my parents divorced and they didn't get along well is that it happens in families now mom got a job here with the so my two sisters and i were taken to live in this house. thanks to mom's love leave here and didn't feel like or friends. but i've been around orphan since i was a little girl. and my young and innocent heart witnessed this harsh life that looks simple as some kids have it really hard and they need help of the. child to live in an orphanage for along it lives its mark on a child both on his character and personal attributes which with a child should be raised in a family. she will develop completely differently with the family relationships but we cannot give this to a child in an orphanage no matter how strongly we love the child and wish him well but no matter what good conditions we have here we will never be able to give it. a discipline that hasn't been here for a long them she has a big p

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parents with down syndrome or schizophrenia, parents of criminal, parents of people who are transgenderedgies who are also quite overwhelmed >> stephen: you're dealing with some heavy stuff in this. you're dealing with heavy stuff. >> but i have to say all of these stories which appear to be so full of darkness ended up being stories that have an awful lot of light in them >> stephen: a lot of hope in here and there are parents responding in really beautiful ways to the challenges posed by children they didn't expect. hiding it from my kids so they don't see what the standard is. >> i'm hiding it from my kids too >> stephen: why do you say exceptional? why exceptional? some of these kids you would have just called special. of. >> we're trying to come up with terms all the time to define them. what is the word that conveys both this is really difficult and not what i wanted and this became the joy of my life. >> stephen: were you an exceptional child? >> i am. stephen: are you a schizophrenic or anything like that? i see no obvious exception. >> schizophrenia hasn't surfaced yet but i'm th

the family had trouble before the accident the single mom was stripped of her parental rights for not looking out for the child's welfare. the boys are very good and alert. it's hard for him to understand the bomb to this chair and cannot. most importantly he doesn't let his ailments define him. when he's in this chair you have to catch him so that he doesn't fall down. he's always moving if we could find strong willed parents ready to take a handicapped child be able to join their family today mama. mama. yes i was brought up in this orphanage myself she's my family didn't last long my parents divorced. they didn't get along well it happens in families and mom got a job here with the so my two sisters and i were taken to live in this house. thanks to mom's love leave here and didn't feel like orphans. but i've been around orphan since i was a little girl. and my young and innocent heart witnessed this harsh life that looks simple as some kids have it really hard and they need help of the. you know the child to live in the orphanage for along with them it lives its mark on a child bot

. >> we need to reach the parent and the care givers when we started the program we were doing mostly out reach to the students and we realized that they are not the ones who are making the decision about how they make it to and from school, so we are structuring our program to be more and more about the parents and the care givers, we do do evaluation of the program and student travel talleys and ask the kids how they got to and from school and do parent surveys, analyzing what their attitudes are, in the beginning when we started, the first or the top five concerns were safety of intersections and the speed of traffic and also distance and violence. when we first started violence was the number one concern and at the end of the program it has dropped to number five. actually the top three are all traffic-related. >> and we or our performance over all since we started in 2009 we have seen a one percent increase in walking, a half percent in increase in biking and one percent decrease in single family vehicle over the 15 schools and that may not sound like a lot but that is the first

we have not talked about the roles of parents in this and parents are family members. talk a little bit about that. there are some communities doing a good job with federal involvement -- family involvement -- does anybody know? it cannot be just the government. when it's all hands on deck, we need all hands including parents. >> when we did the work and anti-psychotic drugs, we recommended that families need to be more involved especially when beneficiaries are in nursing homes and not necessarily aware of everything being prescribed on their behalf. we very much made the point that this was something that everybody needed to contribute in terms of involvement. >> others? how many of your parents? ok, everybody. you can speak, you can put on your parent at if you want. >> from the medicare perspective, medicare beneficiaries take many drugs and the average i think this 12 prescriptions per beneficiary right now. the part d plans to a lot for pharmacy reviews which is not sufficient and beneficiaries are encouraged to do a new well as a visit in the affordable care act

for a lot of parents showing up it's a new experience. maybe they don't understand the language but depending upon how it's structured. so another piece that we participated in was part of participating in the implementation of the design special education and their identifying their straefg goals across the department and the calculation of other parental organizations and community leaders to give feedback. they're specific goal was creating authentic relationships to address student success. as part of that process the ideas that were generated from the committee meeting in march some of those questions are included with dr. and her colleagues. i'm going to highlight a couple of those. some of those that came out of that briefing the parents want the information particle around the information progress. for example, on information sheet on the i p project works it should be included in a package including friendly language. another input from the pact this those cross packet calculations was the ideas of parents having information of t

they should talk to a parent and let them know what is going on so the parent can intervene.s important that students understand that it's not tatt lichk or snitching. we can't help them if we don't understand. >> cheryl: do you have success stories? >> there are fabulous things going on in alameda county right now. unified started talking off the year and showed the movie of bully to students and right now students are developing posters that they are using all over the district. they are developing their own anti-bully messages and using student language to talk about it. >> cheryl: is the idea to punish the perpetrator, the bully? how do you deal with the bully? >> the idea to prevent bullying as much as you can. we give students and people tools to help with the issue. i think when we find out that a student has been bullied it's important to work with the student that has been victimized but to work with them separately. the balance of power i talked about earlier can be played out and brings them together. i think working with them separately and getting to the root of

myself and my parents and the police department and one officer inspector lanny [inaudible] and my parents can't be here because they're ill. my father surface from alzheimer's dementia and home bound. my mother speaks little english and visually impaired and cares for my father. she surf suffers from anxiety and. >> >> blood pressure. and my father retired from railway and i am a franchise firefighter. the police came to my parents home twice looking for my ex-wife rita to serve a subpoena. there is a pending case thatful vs one of my brothers who is not here today. my ex-wife is a potential witness in that case. my mother explained rita never lived there. the police left without incident both times and at 5:30 p.m. they arrived at my mom's house. he was yelling saying this is the police. open the door. she did this tnltly. my father became agitated and she didn't open the door right away and was nervous and frightened and asking for rita my mom rita doesn't live there and told her my father is six and to stop coming over and this is the third visit. "i know that rita lives here. you have

and then have the parents all seem to be smartphones. it's not the best way to go, but at least it's something. and you can say connected with parents, citizenship, smelling lists. i've worked with parents to teach them vocabulary and english, and sometimes the phone, as simple as a text, is a good way for them to become more welcome to the school system, where we can continue to reach out and show them how the children are progressing. >> all right, a big round of applause to chris and jose. >> andrea, welcome to the stage. andrea is an american anchor, reporter, and commentator for nbc, and she just rushed here from her msnbc show. andrea mitchell, welcome. i'll let you take it away. >> thank you very much. mr. secretary, great to see you just off the air, and now in the hot seat, thank you all so much. thanks for being here. what an exciting program. i can't wait, as excited as i am about interviewing you, mr. secretary, chris paul and the students -- >> much better than me. >> much better than you. >> yeah. >> but congratulations, fi

very few parents, whether they are in a two parent family or a single-parent family, have the kind of flexibility that enables them to do the most important job in their life, parent while doing their job, ringing him the income that keeps her family going. -- bringing home the income that keeps their family going. there are huge economic implications and how our kids are prepared. the new brain research that bill was referring to tells us that what happens in the first five years of life has a dramatic effect on later development. 700 new neural connections are formed every second, laying the foundation for learning, behavior, health, and all of the other things we need to grow up as productive adults. right year in chicago, the nobel prize-winning economist has pioneered research into the broad benefits to our society and our economy from early childhood development. he has proven time and time again and he will tell any group willing to listen that every dollar we invest can yield savings of more than seven dollars down the road by improving school achievement and graduation rates

our parents guide is free and can be distributed at schools or parent nights or whatever, so we're happy to make them available to you at connect safety .org so a little bit more of the big picture. this is amazing panel of people who have resources and campaigns that can support and reinforce your fine work. so i am glad you stayedand we learned about bullying and preventions and solutions and just to reinforce getting the accurate picture bullying is a serious problem but it's not an epidemic. it's not on the rise. daift finkelhorn and director of the research center university of new hampshire and reviewed studies and bullying among youth is actually down in recent years. his colleague have actually stopped using the term of "bullying" and refer to peer aggression and i can go into definitions but i won't bore you. a subset of bullying is also not on the rise and based on researchers and their samples and other scholar's work and 20% of teens have ever experienced cyber bullying and a scholar from norway published lower numbers but why be such a stickler about accurate data? because t

parents out there know. these parents did nothing wrong. they saw a nurse try to give the sick baby the wrong medication and felt we were mistreated. they took him out and took him to the other hospital. the first hospital is not cops over. the second hospital said they are good parents and after that they shed up to take the baby forcefully from the parents and the mother is very calm like what is going on and then she said where are you taking him and they say we'll tell you later, because you are not rational now. my head is going to explode and now justice is done in the case it sounds. >> and state law makers here, megyn, cps is under investigation and they will be audited and this will result in wholesale changes. >> the indignity of them saying can you have him back but you have to check in with the division of child and family services so we monitor you as parents. the only ones acting back was you and not us. >> thank you for the update. ladies of the view joining the fierce debate over paula deen. one after the other sponsors have

so parents panicked. and there was just, it's a long and complicated story, but a school headmaster in havana, james baker, who had connections with the u.s. state department, and he managed to get the state department to give him and a group of people in if havana carte blanche to draw up visa waivers that would allow kids to leave about two, three or four months after they applied. parents required a much longer time, so the parents that wanted to get the kid out first, and the plan was to reunite with them. in just a matter of a few more months. but it didn't turn out that way because a little fallout from the missile crisis of october '62 that nobody noticed is that whenmy kieta kruschev took fidel castro's toys away, he got very angry, and he closed the door, and the parents of most of us were trapped and couldn't leave. for most of us it took the parents anywhere from 3-6 years or longer to finally pick it to the -- make it to the u.s. and what would drive any parent to do this? i'm asked over and o

it's known as co-parenting or parenting partnerships. harlow explains. >> reporter: hey there, fredericka. you can call it the modern, modern family. increasingly men, women, gay and straight having babies and raising them together without ever being romantically involved. it is known as co-parenting or parenting partnerships. take a look. >> why don't we just do it? >> what? >> reporter: friends with kids. it's not just a stuff of hollywood movies. >> we really want to have a kid. share all the responsibility and just skip over the whole marriage thing. >> look what i have. your new cup. >> reporter: call it the modern modern family. . you say you broke all the rules. >> we did. >> bye-bye. >> reporter: they were co-workers before they were co-parents. >> you were her superior? >> i was. but we weren't -- we weren't messing around. >> yeah. >> so we weren't breaking every rule. >> not that. >> reporter: heidi and david friends for 20 years joked in college if neither had a child by 36, they'd have one together. >> i wanted a partner in