within my political struggle to pass the bill, the irony that my father ended up taking over for paul wellstone added to this incredible aspect of this. i had father, son relationship issues. he was also the generation that did not believe these were real medical issues, he thought of it as moral failings for the most part. because i was a. a member of congress negotiating with him and others to get a better bill, of course the house bill was much better than the senate bill because it was more inclusive of all brain illnesses, it truly reflected the spirit of parity. i thought what an interesting kind of narrative to educate people about the fact there is a law of the land, but to do it in the context of the common struggle that all of us have with being open of the fact that we are consumers because no one really wants anyone to know that they have a mental illness or addiction. >> tell me about the struggle of not wanting anyone to know? what is that about? we call that stigma. >> i grew up around it. i wrote in the book on my mother had debilitating alcoholism. everyone everyone knew it, it