day she found out that this particular guy that she had become good friends with have been killed peachey told me after that she stopped learning names. she said there are probably guys on the wahoo by anyone the vietnam memorial that i don't know their names because it was just -- it became too hard to get close to these guys. so i decided a way to protect myself emotionally was to stop earning their names because of a group of men got killed them and started talking about their names, i wouldn't know where to place the names. that was a way to protect yourself emotionally. protecting themselves emotionally was something a lot of the women i talked to had to deal with. whether they were in the red cross bringing entertainment programs for servicemen. they were nurses who are dealing with mass casualties. had a great way a way to protect themselves emotionally from dallas for them probably the most difficult aspect of their job. just as american women were bound for ideas about femininity come, the example bead girl next-door, but american women were meant to look a certain way. they were