i was a member of congress negotiating with him and pete domenici to get a better veil and of course the house that was better than the senate because it was more inclusive of all of the elements that so truly reflected the spirit of cary. so i thought what an interesting kind of narrative to educate people about the fact that there is a wall of the land. but to do it in the context of us being open about the fact that we are consumers because no one really wants anyone to know that they have a mental illness or addiction. post-talk about the struggle of wanting anybody to know. what is that all about? we call it a stigma but tell me about that. >> guest: i write about how my mother had really debilitating alcoholism. everybody knew it. it was written returned up everywhere. for her age, she was as well known or more as betty ford is being an alcoholic. it was john kennedy, there was plenty written. and yet we kept it under wraps as if it was a big secret in our house to people people with coming to visit. my mom would walk through the house, absolutely debilitated from alcoholism. n