phoebe's parents have been silent until now.w with the online magazine slate, phoebe's father is surprisingly compassionate towards the kids charged saying, you want to see the law acknowledged as rnl penalties but without making an example of them. you want to take their ages into account. there will always be younger one who is go with the flow and join in. phoebe's death is still so raw, yet her grieving father says an apology would go a long way. if they confess to the court and said they were sorry, he said, i'd appeal to the court for total leniency. >> a victim or victim's family can't dictate to a judge what the right sentence should be, but a judge will take it into account, and if a family asks for leniency, a judge is much more likely to do it. >> reporter: phoebe's death rocked the family from massachusetts to ireland, where she grew up. and as with any sudden death, there's guilt. it is the great tragedy of my life that i was not there, her father said, but even just weeks before her death, he didn't think phoebe wa