i mean, being in the cadet chapel that, you know, i remember being a pleb in the cadet chapel in 1976the words of the cadet prayer, always to choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong, never to settle for a half truth when the whole can be won. those were our guiding principles when we worked against don't ask, don't tell. as both penny and i worked to support lgbt military people, those principles were always in front of us, and to be able to have this time to be able to celebrate this with so the many of our straight and gay military folks, bi and trans, was really overwhelming. >> how did this come about? was west point receptive to your wedding plans? >> west point was great. west point was very supportive. you asked how this came about. we had long agreed that we were going to wait for new jersey to pass marriage. we've been together for 17 years, but at the beginning of this year when governor christie vetoed marriage equality we started thinking about other options. the more we thought about the possibility of marrying at west point with all of the connections and the