rahna agrees. she says she has managed to have it all, an award-winning book and a close relationship with her sons. >> i think if i was a man, none of this would be an issue. people have this idea of what a good mother is that somehow their, i don't fit that mold. but i definitely fit the mold of a terrific divorced dad. >> reporter: talyaa has lived apart from her children for 6 years now. we checked in with serena when she was 13 years old, she said adjusting to life without mom had become easier. >> our relationship is really a lot closer than it was before. we can talk about relationship problems and what is going on in a girl's body. and i just, you know, i really love my mom a lot. >> reporter: but serena's vision of her future life as a mother? >> as a mom i never wanna be apart from my children. i want to make that perfect family that she was never able to do. i want that really badly now. >> mama loves you, bye. >> oh, dear. what do you think about these mothers who choose to do their par