but she's read a controversial new book by ralph richard banks, called, "is marriage for white people?" its message, black women should look outside their race for a husband. so, on this night, she's doing just that, meeting eight men -- >> where are you from? >> reporter: of different races -- >> and your number is? >> i'm number one. >> i like that attitude. >> reporter: in one night of speed dating. all part of a strategy banks says will help women like tomika find a husband. you have suggests that black women should give up the good fight. is that to suggest, give up on black men? >> black women have fought the good fight. they have engaged in a noble endeavor of trying to lift black men. that strategy hasn't really worked. >> i really enjoyed it. >> reporter: the idea that black women should give up on black men has made people angry. >> there's no other ethnic group anywhere advocates annihilating their own race. >> reporter: blogs ran wild. >> welcome back. >> reporter: and even gayle king, oprah's best friend, was horrified by the idea. >> by the time i was done with your book