. >> reporter: raphael sandez is struggling with a question impossible to answer. >> how could somebody with a 6- month-old child have so much fate. badal mourned a -- [indiscernible] >> is he supported me with my everybody on twitter is contacting me saying how sorry they are. >> reporter: another of the victims, michael wetzel had six children. most were with him at church last sunday. >> this is charlie in the nutcracker next week. >> reporter: six children now without a father and a community trying to bear the pain. >> this is really about the community. >> it is. >> how it struck the community. >> it is. it's really, really bad. >> the messages left at the memorial are heartfelt offering prayers and condolences. there is one note that says simply "this must end." >>> among the 21 people wounded in the shootings was a new hampshire native, amanda gaspar was shot in the leg. the 32-year-old was in charge of the holiday party at the social services center when the shooting started. we spoke with her pastor who knows the family well. >> i guess that's my concern ramifications, not jus