i'm going to start with you, rebec rebecca, this idea of men taking paternity leave being a side of weaknesss chris said, it's ridiculous. i want to talk a little bit about these questions you heard them ask, what's he going to do, sit there and look at the baby? what do you do besides breast-feed? this is actually at the core of a bigger system of how you divide the labor of parenting. when you have a new baby, neither in a heterosexual union, neither person knows what to do with it. if the man isn't there, the woman learns how to do it and she's the one that does it forever. it's how you set up a whole system of how domestic labor is organized. not just for those first few days or hours or weeks. but on for years. and that's how we get an unequal system of parenting. so this kind of issue of male presence and participation in the parenting and family structure, this isn't just -- what happens in those first few moments extends beyond that and part of a much bigger gender system. >> inside the professional sports league, obviously the role of the wife, they're supposed to play, is very gend