i think what people don't realise, rehana, options.mes to handling a deceased person after they have died, so you don't have to send them to an undertakers, they don't have to have a hearse, they don't have to have a hearse, they don't even have to have a traditional coffin. i have learned all of this along the way. in 2012, my mum died and a year later, an ex—partner died and 18 months after that, a good friend in brighton died, sol that, a good friend in brighton died, so i went to three funerals and the third funeral, my friend in brighton, my friend's partner, was supported by the company in brighton and it was a light bulb moment for me because whilst the other two funerals were obviously sad, they didn't seem to reflect the people and that was difficult. and when i we nt and that was difficult. and when i went to my friend's funeral, it wasn'tjust about went to my friend's funeral, it wasn't just about the funeral, it is about what happens from the point of death to the ceremony and the way these women supported and helped my fri