richard coles, welcome to hardtalk. britain has just lived through a rather extraordinary, momentous experience, the death of queen elizabeth, the mourning that came with it. and many people have said that the death of the queen revived very sharp memories for them of their own losses and how they felt during their own losses. you've just written a book about grief. is that true of you, too? oh, yes, very much so. i think the queen had a representative life as well as a sort of constitutional life and a personal life. and her loss is a loss we all experience. people say, oh, but you didn't know her, but of course, we all did know her from banknotes, from stamps, from simplyjust being there, the christmas message. and that absence affects all of us. and any absence will elicit in you your own experience of grief, reviving your own experience of grief, i think. i remember when princess diana died, having a look at all the books of condolence in stjames's palace. and it was full of stuff that people were writing about thei