her ex-husband of twelve years, richard shenkman. >> mr. shenkman named his battle the "war of the tylers." but he was the only one at war. the rest of us were just trying to survive. >> shenkman's "war of the tylers" was a reference to the "war of the rosss" -- >> i bought these lamps -- >> with my money! >> a popular film in which a divorcing couple played by michael douglas and kathleen turner both end up dead. nancy tyler's recollections of her abusive marriage to shenkman are a far cry from the life she imagined for herself in 1992 when she was set up on a blind date with a charismatic tv producer. >> you know, i wasn't really looking for someone. i had my two children and my father was ill at the time. so things were a bit upside down. and he came along, and we got along well. >> and was it the first time that you kind of leaned on somebody else? >> first time in a while, and i kind of felt like i could because he seemed to be in control and seemed to have it all together. >> shenkman seemed like the answer to nancy's prayers. she had