robert redfort, warren beatty and the ultimate charmer, my favorite, jfk jr. men of a past era. that era gone? >> is there a reason you are posing this question to me? >> no. >> i think charm to me is being engaged enough in people's life. charming is -- do you care about people and are you willing to go out of your way to help people. there is too much narcissim america. i agree. people just live in their own world and don't much think about other people. >> you can be very charming. the viewers may not believe it it, but you can be generous and kind and a good listener. >> he is always charming and nice. very nice to ladies. >> do you think maybe women feel this way because it could be their fault. they demanded men don't open the door for me and i can pay my own bills. guys are scared. >> that is a very, very legitimate argument. i try to open the door all the time and sometimes you get a look like don't do that. >> the women's bathroom, eric. >> but we talked about this. this is different from being charming. when he gets a trophy and all this nonsense. that's different. cha