robert todd lincoln and emily were enormously close. she visited hildeen. they were the survivors. if you think about it, robert todd lincoln outlasts his brother, mother, father by years and year. emily outlasts all of the todds, and so they are the survivors together and were enormously close, and it's her daughter who writes the first biography of mary todd lincoln, and it's a very kind biography, so, yeah, this is of a moment that she feels this, but, you know, underneath these resentments and these political disagreements there's affection buried still. >> joseph holt, judge advocate general, had the same problem with his family. he started out as a slave owner, and he split off and became a union man, anti-slavery as well, and his family was not happy with him, and he tried to reconcile with it afterward. he did with thome them. not all of them would. the other rumor i have is a letter from them, george who served with alex todd. in this he is writing to helm and saying that todd had been killed and he shows in a map where todd is buried. so the family can claim him if they wi