joining me now is ronnell. ronnell. can you share with us your experience? >> i met a man who was very kind to me, very warm, overwhelmingly friendly, and by the time that the behavior started becoming negative, it was first, you know, the little jabs breaking me down a little bit, telling me what's wrong with me, comparing me to other people, eventually openly criticizing me and eventually physically harming me and causing me to end up in the emergency room. abuse is about control and i was fully under this person's control. >> explain this guide to us. >> the guide was created to help victims of domestic violence, intimate partner violence and other types of abuse get out of abusive relationships. it is a simple three step process that any victim of abuse can understand. it helps to guide a victim from the point of understanding what abuse means, all the way to getting out of the abusive relationships and rebuilding their lives. >> when someone is trying to leave, it's generally the most dangerous time for them. how can you advise someone to remain safe? >