that's one of the coolest part is, for example, a story by ryan quinn, how'd you come out to anyone at all, and so the story in this book was the first of you to come out and had to come out to his parents the weepy for the book enough. that's the coolest part of the book is a really did keep a motivation to come out and then inspired others to come out as well. >> exciting to read. unit these viral videos that on youtube, servicemembers around the world coming out to vegas, family members, giving a range of responses. in many cases incredibly moving. key come in your experience, what was the reaction like when your resignation letter became public and then when you went on the rachel maddow show. >> it happened within about a 48 or 72 hour time period. i was -- sure that only family member back home that new. so when i came out, when i came out on the rachel maddow show i was literally coming out to the world. again, it was in and i'm not right and if you don't come it was very poor quality. clearly a skype interview. it was rushed. there were audio problems. [laughter] i wanted to ru