>> i know somebody who is not getting a sabel coat for christmas this year, i think.nships, whether they last 90 days or 90 years, it's about communication and compromise. in a not hostile way she should say that seems low to me, what gives? because maybe he's under a mountain of debt or he's got credit card problems. >> over the holidays it could be 10, 12 people you're buying gifts for. i know a couple that did this once. they used the number to get creative. i think if you ask why, why is it you want to do this, then together you figure out let's be the most creative we can, it could be turned into a positive. >> question two, we've been invited to a party at a friend's house, a couple. the girlfriend has not spoken to us in six months, but my husband works with the boyfriend and we think he is the one who invited us. i don't want to go because it will be awkward seeing her, but my husband wants to go. if we don't, it will be the first time in ten years we haven't attended. >> you go to the party. if you feel you want to call in advance and check in, you can. as a