i remember oh, no, you're not calling her sami. call her mrs. kotb. it was weird. >> the problem is that now little kids, like my daughter calls her teacher by her first name. so because the dynamics have changed -- >> if your parent has got a strong preference give it to her. just give it to her. >> you're a nice man. >> you are. >> jury's out on harriet, but you are a nice man. >> the next question is from rebecca. "i can't stand my brother-in-law. my sister is always telling me about their fights and what a jerk he is. now i don't even want to see him at a family gathering. should i just ignore him? tell him off?" probably not. "or just be nice because it's the holidays." >> i think that you should just keep your distance. be cordial. it's not your problem, even though you love your sister, so you want to protect her. but you know, just -- stay your distance. >> in a situation like this, too, because i've got brothers, we use each other as confidants. so she's not telling her sister about all the great things he does. she talks to her when he's don