>> sandberg: no, i can s...i can more. >> o'donnell: it's that mindset that led sheryl sandberg to reach the conclusion that's at the heart of her book: it's not just men who hold women back; women do it to themselves. they play it too safe at work, worry too much about being liked, and turn down opportunities in anticipation of having a family one day. >> sandberg: they start leaning back. they say, "oh, i'm busy. i want to have a child one day. i couldn't possibly, you know, take on any more," or "i'm still learning on my current job." i've never had a man say that stuff to me. >> o'donnell: you're suggesting women aren't ambitious. >> sandberg: i'm not suggesting women aren't ambitious. plenty of women are as ambitious as men. what i am saying, and i want to say it unequivocally and unapologetically, that the data is clear that, when it comes to ambition to lead, to be the leader of whatever you're doing, men, boys outnumber girls and women. >> o'donnell: but some women will hear that and say, "wow, she's tel

. >> we have about 30 seconds left, sheryl sandberg is going to be one of the speakers and she's got a new book stirring a lot of controversy "lean in." >> i applaud her for helping to re-ignite the discussion about feminism. there are still lots of issues. we still have women who are making 77 dollars for every $100 a man makes, in the same job. women are more reliant on social security for their retirement than men are. they live in poverty more than men do. so much more to do in that regard. jennifer granholm, former governor of michigan, first woman governor of michigan, will be one of our speakers, as will rita moreno who shows what another generation of women are still doing at age 80. >> and she's not getting up and she's taking charge of her life. >> that's right. >> we do have to take a break. we have a lot more to talk about with congresswoman jackie speier. she's staying with us for another segment. don't forget to mark your california for the professional businesswomen of california conference. this year's theme the next genderation, thursday may 23rd in san francisco. yo

but sheryl sandberg comes awfully close. at 43, sandberg who is a director at disney, abc's parent company is the highly respected chief operating office of facebook putting her net worth in the billions. she is happily married with two young children and wants even more. specifically, women to join her in the professional stratosphere. she called it leaning in. gunning for the corner office, not the cubicle. here's elizabeth vargas. >> reporter: sheryl sandberg is one of the most powerful women in the world. at 43 she is the chief operating officer of facebook and a billionaire and you could say she is lonely at the top. >> women have 14% of the top jobs in corporate america for ten years. ten years of no progress. >> are her book "lean in" has ignited a firestorm as a men fes stow for the sex in the city generation looking at the uncomfortable question why are there so few women at the top? >> we are nowhere close to having a share of the leadership roles anywhere in the world. a national retailer printed up onesies, smart

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sandberg says it is a sort of feminist manifesto. can it work? the 43-year-old chief executive officer of facebook says wedge can succeed if they lean into their careers and lean on society to make sure nature and nurture are combining to make tomorrow's female leaders. >> we expect our boys to lead and our girls to nurture. go to the playground. will you see parents call their daughters bossy, a word almost never used for our sons. >> even sandberg's critics applaud her desire to change the future but they accuse her of being out of touch with the obstacles many women are facing now. can they have successful careers and happy families? the devil is in the details. hi, i am soledad o'brien and over the next half hour we'll take a closer look at some of those details as we explore cheryl sandberg's campaign for women to lean in. >> women are not making it to the top of any profession anywhere in the world. >> men run the world. >> we continue to do the majority of the housework and child care. >> she has been saying it for many years and now shery

featured guest on katie. >> please welcome cheryl sandberg. >>reporter: facebook ceo getting a lot of attention for her book called lean in. that offers advice to women on climbing the ladder of success. >> no matter how much progress women have made we are very far from having our shir of the leadership rolls in any industry anywhere in our country or anywhere in the world. >>reporter: sandberg, 43, among the exception. woman in a position of corporate power. the women attain more than half of today college degrees. still make up only about 4 percent of fortune 500 ceo. and sandberg suggest it's because society is still biased against women whether take charge. >> we call our daughters bossy don't call our sons bossy we need to change this lack at our daughters and say she has executive leadership skills. >> in her book she offers suggestions for women whether want to climb the corporate ladder and avoid losing their footing when they decide to start a family. >> message is advance as much as you can so you can negotiate a position that's fav

featured guest on katie. >> please welcome cheryl sandberg. >>reporter: facebook ceo getting a lot of attention for her book called lean in. that offers advice to women on climbing the ladder of success. >> no matter how much progress women have made we are very far from having our shir of the leadership rolls in any industry anywhere in our country or anywhere in the world. >>reporter: sandberg, 43, among the exception. woman in a position of corporate power. the women attain more than half of today college degrees. still make up only about 4 percent of fortune 500 ceo. and sandberg suggest it's because society is still biased against women whether take charge. >> we call our daughters bossy don't call our sons bossy we need to change this lack at our daughters and say she has executive leadership skills. >> in her book she offers suggestions for women whether want to climb the corporate ladder and avoid losing their footing when they decide to start a family. >> message is advance as much as you can so you can negotiate a position that's fav

sheryl sandberg's book is very important. women need to learn to lean back, recharge, renew ourselves. otherwise, this life is not sustainable, either at the individual or collective level. tavis: there are a lot of women who wanted the sheryl sandberg, a lot of people have entered into this rat race of corporate america and they want to escalate to the top. god bless them if that is what they want to do with their lives. is sheryl sandberg the kind of woman to advance a conversation about the role of women in america? >> the issue that she raises in her book are absolutely key. whether they are struggling to find a job or putting food on a table, or if they are running a big, multinational corporation. her point is that there are institutional barriers to success, but there are also personal, individual barriers to success, the voices in our heads that tell us we are not good enough. these are the voices that she is addressing in her book. she asks women to ask that question, what would i do if i was not afraid? a lot of the

featured guest on katie. >> please welcome cheryl sandberg. >>reporter: facebook ceo getting a lot of attention for her book called lean in. that offers advice to women on climbing the ladder of success. >> no matter how much progress women have made we are very far from having our shir of the leadership rolls in any industry anywhere in our country or anywhere in the world. >>reporter: sandberg, 43, among the exception. woman in a position of corporate power. the women attain more than half of today college degrees. still make up only about 4 percent of fortune 500 ceo. and sandberg suggest it's because society is still biased against women whether take charge. >> we call our daughters bossy don't call our sons bossy we need to change this lack at our daughters and say she has executive leadership skills. >> in her book she offers suggestions for women whether want to climb the corporate ladder and avoid losing their footing when they decide to start a family. >> message is advance as much as you can so you can negotiate a position that's fav

what we see sheryl sandberg doing right now is a reflection of that.he's not satisfied being coo of facebook. she wants to do something more. she's looking at her power horizontal. >> she's also got, i think, kind of a tough message. which is that she was speaking to a group of harvard to a group of harvard business school students, and she bluntly said, a third of you women will not be workinging ten years from now, and the rest of you will actually be working for the guy sitting next to you. that's a pretty startling message for you to hear. why is it that women, even in the most elite women, who have advanced degrees from some of the most prestigious schools in this country, have chosen to drop out of the workforce and are not interested in leadership positions. and that's a really interesting thing to think about, i think. >> yeah. >> it's a good discussion to have. norah, fascinating piece. thank you very much. >> thank you. >> patty, thank you very much. >> thank you, anderson. >> i want to know what you think on twitter right now, @andersoncoope

do we want sheryl sandberg to be part of the spectrum of choices?solutely hope that this is somebody that you can become. >> sure. >> you may choose to do something else, you may choose to stay home and raise kids and that's great too. but this is certainly someone that you should emulate. >> i have two daughters. i don't want there to be any limits on their horizons. i want them to achieve at the highest level of their abilities, to do whatever they want to do. my wife made the decision to give up her career to stay home with our children. i think that's admirable work, i think it's to be admired. in our marriage, in our partnership, that's what works for us. but you don't want women to have any low horizons, that they are forced to make decisions because there are limits out there that have been imposed. and i think certainly for people of my generation, i'm 42 years old, we've been accustomed over my entire work life to working with women. and in the firm that i work for, women represent roughly half of the senior leadership of the company. they'

katha, you had a mostly positive reaction to what sandberg has written. what does she bring to this long, simmering discussion? >> well, i think she brings optimism. i think that's so important. i think a lot of the writing and conversation about women and work, it's a real downer. oh, you'll have a baby. then you won't be able to come back. oh, god, you're going to feel guilty all the time. it's terrible. your husband isn't going to help you. you probably won't get that job anyway. you know, she brings to it sort of like, well, why don't you do what you can to make sure that that terrible fate does not befall you. make sure you and your husband are on the same page about equality in the home. don't marry a man who isn't equal. be on the lookout for things like... that drag down your own confidence like the i am poster syndrome. who doesn't have that? i'm a fraud and soon people are going to find out. i think it's all framed in a very positive way. i think that's what people like about it. >> woodruff: danielle belton, you were saying to us that you think

miss sandberg tells us to lean in. i say buy the table. that's what i did.ght the table and today, i design and sell it. what about the women -- forget about the conference table. but what about the women who can't even get into that conference room, that woman who feels alienated whether she's a single mom struggling to put food on the table. i think there is such a need for entrepreneurialism. piers, when you and i were kids, when young people were getting out of school, they needed to find a job. today, young people need to invent one and what i tell women is do not let your circumstances define you. don't let others' opinion of you destroy or stop you, don't let anyone put you in a box. i'm too odd-shaped. i don't fit in anyone's box and i don't intend to get in one until i'm six feet under. >> let me go to suzy welch next. you're married to the great jack welch. he had a brilliant policy of firing the 10% worst performers in his country every year. pretty ruthless, neutron jack. should more women take a leaf out of jack's book? should they be more ruthl

sheryl sandberg is saying why is that.g the onus on women themselves and what i've heard from girlfriends and other moms, there's a very strong reaction to what she's saying. a very strong reaction. because a lot of people say i can't be sheryl sandberg. she's not trying to say be like me but she has embodied this message. the other thing i find interesting about sheryl sandberg is for someone so incredibly successful is that she's very insecure. she is uncomfortable in some ways with her own power and influence and it goes back to as we put in our "60 minutes" piece from how she was treated both as a young girl and in high school. >> sheryl sandberg says that women in the business world are worried about being liked. >> yes. yes. in fact, mark zuckerberg said to her at some point i think your biggest problem is that you want too much to be liked. >> and nora, you point out that sheryl talks a lot in her book about her vulnerabilities, her insecurities. she's very strategic in doing that. she knows she has to do that to be

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you talk ann marie slaughter, and sheryl sandberg, it is obviously both. hear about this research, some people will say, wow, do i do that? but also very important is, i think, every woman who paves the path and sets the example and starts setting the expectation that women do and can and should negotiate for things like higher compensation, i think that makes a contribution. >> all right. professor hannah riley bowles, thank you very much. appreciate it as always. >> thanks for having me. >> sure. >>> actress valerie harper, she has cancer. and how she's actually staying positive despite being told that she only has a few months to live. s for real this time. step seven point two one two. verify and lock. command is locked. five seconds. three, two, one. standing by for capture. the most innovative software on the planet... dragon is captured. is connecting today's leading companies to places beyond it. siemens. answers. how we get there is not. we're americans. we work. we plan. ameriprise advisors can help you like they've helped millions of others.

>> sheryl sandberg says there's an ambition gap and sounds like professor henry higgins, why can't aa man. maybe men should be more like women like they should be more your like husband. my four biggest achievements in life are named john, jeff, david and victoria. they're children, and i think we all feel the same way and when anne-marie slaughter causes a huge national uproar with an article in i guess "atlantic" saying that women can't have it all after all, i have news for her, no one can have it all. >> you know, i just think, you know, the reaction is, people are saying -- i have read the book but people are saying sheryl sandberg is not talking enough about -- not talking about the problems. well, you know, what are you asking her for? she's write a book that is making the point that there is this -- there is -- that women, some women who could be doing much more lean back, don't do enough. she's not talking about the problems of every woman. that's okay. i mean, apparently it's a really powerful book for those who found the message in it. we're asking -- this in itself is tel

sheryl sandberg, have you had a chance to read it yet?ovely. i've read some excerpts. >> you're not a woman, so i don't care what you think. >> he's been chiming in all morning, you may care. maybe we'll all have a discussion. >> thank you. 42 minutes after the hour right now. actress valerie harper, best known for her days on the hit show "rhoda" and "the mary tyler moore show." she has been diagnosed with a rare former cancer. she's talking about it with some truly inspiring words. here to tell us more about the condition is senior medical correspondent elizabeth cohen. this is a rare form of cancer. >> it is. and it's not what we usually think of when we think of cancer that affects the brain. usually we think of a tumor. this is not a tumor. this is loose cells in her spinal fluid and that affects the men ink es and that's basically the covering over the brain. so you can see it there, the meninges sort of that blue and green and beige layers there, and inside is the brain. so from what we now it's not actually in her brain, but still

cheryl sandberg released a book on how other women can take steps to succeed in the work place. she's on the cover of "time" magazine, a featured guest on "katie". facebook's coo is gegt a lot of attention for her book, lean in. >> no matter how much progress women have made we're very far from having our share of the leadership roles anywhere in the world. >> sandberg, who is 43 is a woman in a position of corporate power. women attain more than half of the college degrees making up only about 4% of the fortune 500 ceos. sandberg suggests it's because society is still biased. >> we call our daughters boss yeechl we don't call our sons bossy wex need to look at our daughters and say shaez executive leadership skills. >> she offers suggestions for women who want to avoid losing their footing. >> her message is advance so you can negotiate a position that is favorable to work, family balance when you come to it. >> law professor joe williams who studies the balance says sandburg's advice is sound and important is the attention she's getting. >> it's reigniting feminist movement. >

facebook sheryl sandberg and her mission to reboot feminism. and ruth marcus, isn't it interesting how the word that's greeted her is the word "hate." don't hate her. >> right. as we were saying don't hate -- nobody would ever say about a man don't hate him because he's successful. look. nature loves a good cat fight, and she is attractive. she is smart, she is young, she's impossibly rich and impossibly successful. what's not to get the claws out. and i blame actually for a change us women, because she said something provocative. she said something worth debating, but why is it that we need to debate it by sort of acting as if we passed around a note in junior high school saying, hey, everybody, let's be mean to sheryl today. >> why is the instinct, congresswoman, for women to be resentful of this sort of advice? is it a sense that it's incomplete? she doesn't get it? she comes from, you know, different circumstances? what -- how do you describe that? >> i think that women are constantly pushing to get the recognition that they so rightly dese

sandberg is saying ladies, you have to lean in.m with why women are not leaning in as sandberg puts it, they know that, they feel they would have to be the erin callan in order to achieve that level of successful they would have to give everything up and be the perfect career woman, perfectly dedicated. meet this impossible bar and they say that doesn't sound so great. to me where sandberg misses the mark, rather than telling women you need to lean in, she needs to be convincing them they don't have to be perfect to take on that prong them don't have to meet this crazy unrealistic bar that they have set up to take that promotion to continue to stay in the workplace even after they have had children or when they're planning a family. i saw this a lot when i was running for office and the research that i've done around women running for office. you find that when women run for office, they win just about as often as men do. it's not once get into the process. women are about a third less likely to run for office themselves much to se

sandberg's book is called "lean in." here thshe is on "60 minutes". >> plenty of women are as ambitious as men, but i want to say it unapologetically that the data is clear when it comes to ambition to lead, to be the leader of whatever you're doing, men, boy, outnumber girls and women. >> but shall women will hear that and say, wow, she's telling me i'm not working hard enough, i'm not trying hard enough. she's blaming women. >> i'm not blaming women. my message is not one of blaming women. there is an awful lot we don't control. i am saying that there is an awful lot we can control and we can do for ourselves. >> joanna coles is the editor-in-chief of cosmopolitan magazine and also a close friend of sandberg's. thank you for being with us this morning. >> my pleasure. >> first off i'd like to read one of the comments from people who watch sandberg's interview on "60 minutes" last night. this is one of those comments. quote, she has no sensitivity to the struggling mother. she is not facing reality for the average woman

she got that first interview with sandberg about her book.a is a washington correspondent for the new yorker. nice to have you all with us. you got a chance to spend a lot of time with her. you heard a little bit of the debate, right? is it internal that women need to do more for themselves? or is it external that women, you know, that there are things happening in the culture that need to change? that it's not women changing? >> i think what sheryl would say, rather maddeningly, is that it's both. both we need to change the culture, it's definitely ens tugsal things that need to be changed. but what we have not emphasized is what are the internal barriers that women face? what do they believe about themselves? which does not help them put themselves forward. and that's what she wants to sort of drill down on. >> you guys have been surprised that she's been such a lightning -- your book is really a great read. i thought it was interesting and entertaining and -- >> unusually funny. >> sort of everything you're looking for in an author. i was

and then part one of my interview with sheryl sandberg.ok called "lean in" and it's sparking nationwide conversations. it has some controversy, too. she adds the fact that most of her critics are women. >>> welcome, everybody. starting point this morning, breaking story we're following. can explosive device found on a florida college campus along with a body. we'll tell you what officials say is happening there. >>> and a shawl jet torn to pieces after it smashes into three homes. we'll take you live to the scene. >>> the republican party making public a report saying voters feel the party is unwelcoming and divided. we'll talk to jake tapper about that. >>> also developing, wildfires burning in colorado to south carolina. homes destroyed. roads closed. we'll have the details coming up. >>> and in business, a proposed bailout of cypress is taking a toll right here at home. stock futures are down this morning. are we in for a messy day on wall street? >>> later this hour, part one of my sit-down interview with sheryl sandberg. we'll tell yo

so sandberg has written a book called "lean in."her last may, she said we have to teach our daughters to believe they are going to run the company, if we want the workplace to change for all women and their families. >> sheryl sandberg says she wants to see young women celebrate ambition and never tell themselves they have to give up money or their passion because they want a family. she even heard her own daughter say she couldn't be president and why? >> because i want to be a mommy. >> my daughter wrote a song with all the presidents in it. her first question was, mommy, why are they all boys? and i thought, good question. what happened is that men believe they can do both. have careers and families. women think there's going to be pressure and have to choose. they start thinking i'm not going to be able to do all this because i want to have i child one day. do not lean back. lean in. put your foot on the gas pedal and keep it there until the day you have to make a decision and then make a decision. >> and that decision, she says

>> i say all this talk -- the winner is going to be shall sandberg. all of the criticism she's getting from men and women is going to equate to book sales. no matter what we are debating, the real winner moneywise is sheryl sandberg. gerri: i have to say that she is something of role model. she is really exposing herself here and putting herself out there. taking a lot of heat for it. i admire that. moving on to something political for a little bit of fun here, house republicans and the president meeting. are we getting anywhere on the budget? >> i hope that we are. it took an entire first term were president was going to actually make some effort to sort of compromise or to connect with the other side. i think that he realizes at this point it is essential. i'm worried that we are going to see very little accomplished despite his best efforts. gerri: marjorie, what do you say? >> the administration lately been waiting for the second term and right now, i think what is tragic is you have a complacent public. this is been going on for so long, i don't

sheryl sandberg's new book "lean in" which says women can have it all.ean in and be more ambitious and not worry about how people perceive their assertiveness. >> i want every little girl who someone says they're bossy to be told instead you have leadership skills. >> because you were told you were bossy. >> because i was told that. >> joining us "the huffington post" editor and chief might have been told you were bossy at some point. you've published 13 books, run for political office, a masters degree in economics from cambridge university. and you are also a mom with two grown daughters in their 20s now. so let's take a look at the statistics for just a minute, arianna. we're talking the fortune 500 only has 21 female ceos. about 12 women can be counted out as the 190 heads of state. and despite the most number of women in congress, we're talking about less than one in five are women. so what do we need to do? how do we lean in so to speak? >> well, what we need to do is to both have women leaning which means not listening to the voices of doubt in ou

i sit down with sheryl sandberg to talk about this.n the maelstrom of people who think she say villain. some say she is blaming women for their role in this, which is not what the book says. other people heralding what she is doing, creating this movement. i think as an individual, right, a crazy place to be in the middle of a swirl of a debate. front and center, interesting to chat about that. starting next week on monday on "starting point." up next, if you like curly fries, you must be smart. if you like science, you might be dissatisfied with life what your facebook likes say about you. not making up, john berman. [ male announcer ] if she keeps serving up sneezes... [ sneezing ] she may be muddling through allergies. try zyrtec®. powerful allergy relief for adults and kids six years and older. zyrtec®. love the air. when the doctor told me that i could smoke for the first week... i'm like...yeah, ok... little did i know that one week later i wasn't smoking. [ male announcer ] along with support, chantix (varenicline) is proven to

but first, more now on sheryl sandberg.h vargas was here. in the first half hour talking about it. it is because of blunt talk about the leadership-ambition gap between working men and women. she's a c.o.o. of facebook. her book is called "lean in: women, work, and the will to lead," and we're going to talk to her in just a moment. first, a look at her journey to the top. she's a female force behind the largest social networking site in the world. sheryl sandberg, mark zuckerberg's right hand woman at facebook. as chief operating officer, she's been a consultant for world leaders. she's breaking down barriers every day in silicon valley. this year, number ten on forbes' list of most powerful women. how did she do it? a harvard graduate, she was the chief of staff at the u.s. treasury department by the age of 29. taking a leap of faith on the tech industry in 2001, she joined a then small startup called google and developed it into the number one search engine. a few years later, she was wooed to facebook. with her rise to t

cheryl sandberg says lean in. another powerful woman is telling women to lean back. >> i'm se cupp. i am in d.c. for meetings. mysterious, i know. >>> right now the president is wrapping up a big announce many at one of the energy department's largest national laboratories for scientific research. at a time of austerity, he wants to dedicate $2 billion to research for developing advance technology cars. it would come from energies paid by offshore oil and gas drilling. he is calling at this time energy security trust. he first mentioned it in his state of the union address. without this infusion of cash, research labs like the national lab four where the president is today stand to lose federal grants under the sequester. lab directors warn it will

sheryl sandberg is telling women it's okay to really know what you want.ate for that. we're not only talking about executives here, we're talking about if you want to be a movie star, a stay at home mom. find the thing that means having it all to you, and lean in, embrace it. stuart: she's saying more, she's saying take responsibility, take more responsibilities in different areas, move out, spread your power, acquire power. she's saying do that, even if you're criticized for doing it, but i think the point you want to -- you're smiling, you know what's coming. >> yes. stuart: you say that women are their own worst enemies because women join in the criticism of females. >> absolutely, gender bias exists, it's very real and men are not to blame, women are just as guilty as men. what's worse, it's largely unconscious, we don't know we're doing it. and reading my favorite study from harvard. a class was given a story, half read about heidi, half read about howard. howard was viewed as a collegial guy, everybody wants to work with howard. heidi was viewed as s

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but some critics say sandberg's advice is a little short sighted. is the editor-at-large for "time" which features cheryl sandberg on the cover of the upcoming issue. and ceo of consultant firm 21st which focuses on gender in the workplace. the book is out next week, but she gave a hint about what she calls leaning in in the pbs interview last year. take a look. >> biggest thin i thing i wanted the women to hear is be ambitio ambitious, start out with big dream, big goals. the world is still run by men and if they're not more ambitious, they'll ghefrt theet. lean into your career. when you need the balance, think about it then. when you need to think about what you're doing with children. but don't make sacrifices now for children you don't even have yet. because that almost guarantees that you won't have a job worth staying for once you get to that place. >> i want to start with about a l belinda. your headline is don't hit her because she's successful. does what we just heard sum up her mission? >> i think you did. i think what is causing all the

sandberg says lean in, fight harder, be wileyer own your own ambition, and who did i miss?ays better policies. better policies workplace policies. all these women are arguing that women in general should do it like they do. but kelly mikino don't have that ambition and they're not working on this abstract manifesto. they're real people with real lives and real marriages, real kids, and they need to navigate it on a micro level. on the micro level it might be easier to just lean out. >> john: and the other difference between those women in your piece is they're giving their own manifestos. you're documenting other women's stories. did you feel with ms. makino's choices? >> they're not for me. i've worked full time my whole life. i have a nine-year-old daughter. i feel my model of self sufficiency is good for her. we need both jobs to pay the bills. like most families we both need to work. but i admire her and there is a tiny little part of me that yearns for a life where all i have to do is care for the domestic front. talk to any woman yeah, i go to work, i figure out the p

. >>> there's a lot of buzz about a new book by facebook's number two, cheryl sandberg, "lean in" ise shelves tomorrow n an interview airing tonight on "60 minutes," sandberg says women are opting out of leadership position necessary the workplace before they even get started. >> plenty of women are as ambitious as men but i am saying and i want to say it unequivocally and unapologetically that the data is clear that when it comes to ambition to lead, to be the leader of whatever you're doing, men, boys, outnumber girls and women. >> but some women will hear that and says she tells me, wow, i am a not working hard enough not trying to hard enough, she's blaming women. >> i'm not blaming women. my message is not one of blaming women. there's an awful lot we don't control. i am saying that there's an awful lot we can control and we can do for ourselves. >> sandberg also says that women tend to be liked less when they are successful and she says that's holding women back. >>> all right, be sure to watch cheryl sandberg's profile by our national correspondent susan candiotti tonight. we

>> yeah, sheryl sandberg is right and sheryl sandberg is talking about half the problem.'s talking about half the problem. she says in her book and in speeches that she is talking about the internal things that hold women back, which doesn't mean there aren't external things that hold women back, but this is what she chose to address. whether or not she should have gone further is what the debate is about. >> and areva, i'd like you to get into a little more as far as -- you seem to be blaming the employer, not the employee. the woman and is it possible that both are partly to blame? >> you know, clearly, carol, there are some things that women can learn to do. yes, we spend more time being liked than being respected. yes, we can learn how to build better relationships, how to pick mentors better, there are things that women have talked about for decades that can help us be more successful in the workplace. i can't help come back to the issue of the systemic things. i'm an african-american woman. i deal with racial bias, and gender bias and not excuses, because i will get

we don't call our sons bossy. >> sandberg being criticized for her candor admitting some comes becauseof her success. she says that shouldn't cause people to diskountd her. instead should make them lean in. >> we assume our sons will lead and daughters will newer tour, it would be a better world if everyone could do what they were passionate about. >> we should point out in addition to being second in command sandberg is on the board of the walt disney company parent company of abc 7. you can see more of her tonight on night line at 12:37 a.m. here on abc 7 and also, good morning america tomorrow and wednesday. >> coming up here next, story of a bay area woman whose dish washer just conked out. >> what a run around. >> what a run around. michael finney ging to give a breast cancer survivor a lifetime-- that's definitely a fair trade. it was such a beautiful experience. (jessica lee) ♪ and it's beautiful (woman) why walk 60 miles in the boldest breast cancer event in history? because your efforts help komen serve millions of women and men facing breast cancer every year. visit the3day.o

facebook's sheryl sandberg says women have an ambition gap.t's sparking controversy even before her book officially goes on sale. and then there's this, yahoo! ceo marissa meier banned telecommuting for all yahoo! employees. a few months ago she boasted she only needed two weeks of maternity. >>> the backlash is intense and it brings us to familiar ground. the question is this, can women really have it all? a glamorous high-powered career, thriving children, and a rock solid marriage? editor jill phillovich joins me live from new york. jill, great to see you. i want to read a quote from this blogger, joanne bamberger, getting a lot of attention. guilt is never a good motivator, she says. sandberg's argument that equality in the workplace just requires women to pull themselves up by the lieu buton straps is just as damaging as mayer's office only work proclamation that sends us back to the preinternet era of power suits with floppy bow ties. she says it's less about empowerment and accountability than it is about guilt. you say that women can h