you know they're coming back to security dino to the parable of the hatch wrong not that's what schopenhauer imagine your head short is caught in the with and you want to get warmer so some of the head shorts and you try to get closer while there's a hedge or how close can you get before used bad things happen to you is distinct so you have different kinds of heads will have to find proper distance so according to you come back to child development darcy started usually one is secure attachment that you feel comfortable with certain distance some people don't want to get close they are always avoidance because everything ends badly and they have to people are very needy so coming back to your question if people are fed is. probably the better from a verse you know anxious intention they don't look for someone so interesting to me because this head to a pair of metaphor sets the stage of couple yellin ships and the relationships you have in organizations so i knew that so if you are for example very avoidance and your partner is faint needy it's bad news you know you've done part is running o