scott holderbaum. >> for a week or so you were seeing this guy.ng some, it was fun. >> it was fun. i was giddy. i was like a school kid, and i -- my teacher in the room next to me -- i'd run over there and say, "he just texted me. what do i say? i hadn't really been on a date in 20 years. >> reporter: the day of the shooting, cara texted scott a very explicit text, complete with intimate selfie, inviting him to come over for a tryst. >> so embarrassing. i had never sent suggestive text messages, let alone body parts, it was mortifying. i'd be sad if it wasn't so tragic. but it is tragic. >> so -- but he couldn't come? is that what happened? >> oh, scott was at work he worked from 7:00 at night to 7:00 in the morning. >> reporter: so, she said, she sent the very same x-rated selfie and a similiar invitation to j.j. and jj, though he was seeing someone else, came right over. >> would he have thought of it as break up sex? like, you know, maybe -- >> sure. >> one last go round. >> yeah, we're all nostalgic. there's a country song "we don't have to be