to say was that intended because i know it was, but do yorecognize why th's, um, thoulde s y a er sheth? au wtelling these stories, wereou surprised that your friends were saying, wow, that's really funny, you've got to write that down? >> i think initlly we didn't think it was funny. you know, it was happening in china, wh cvehe w a of fdsani ard to tell stories. and there was some ridiculous aspects of china. but when we were there, you felt it was part of your life. i'm sre people here grew up in inut cta tst nesanygfuj en like my grand ma's coffin be. for years and years people said, welldid you ever think you have a disfunctional family, or your family, you're live anything a room with aig coffin in there. [laughter] i ver ou i thty mi ma jhaigie rpur the,nd it covered up. [laughter] you just take it for granted until many years later. i depress -- i guess the way i uld talkith some humor, afr 20 yesnd theyoure at urouo especi y are here for a long time -- enables me to go and std back and then look at the whole, that period of life with a little bitof certai detament. and you can