to hear any questions or comments or thoughts or criticism sibiu might have. i would love to hear your thoughts. >> you talk about how the women don't have to have it all. so does that conflict in any way with your position here which is extremely competitive as a women's liberal arts college? >> it is a great question. and i think that it's one that we as administrators and you as students have to constantly struggle with because i don't think that either dena or i or anyone that stands up says each and every one of you has to be perfect. and yet somehow you are hearing that. and i don't think that this specific. you can find it at any of the colleges for better and worse. i think the struggle is for us to make it okay for deutsch realize that you don't have to do everything. you shouldn't be doing everything and you need to legitimize that among yourselves >> also with incoming freshmen for high school playing the colleges there is such a huge focus on doing it all. how would you address that? >> i have a little paragraph and the book that i hope he will hav