." >> guest: yes, a friend of mind was a big fan of sidney poitier, and we went to his home, and anik was relatively new to the country. she just arrived for her first semester abroad, and we watched the movie and afterwards she approached me and wanted to know what the fuss was all about because the movie talks about sidney portray bosh portier with a black fiancee, and it talk beside civil right is one thing and this is entirely different, and you get a lot of that even today, but she didn't understand it, and that was so refreshing to me. not only did it give collapse to act like i was an expert on american race relations. it was really great to know that from her perspective, she wasn't looking at me from that -- through that prism of race, and i told people in college there's lat of tension about the issue of interracial dating, and i proved i'm an equal opportunity dating and we have been married 28 years this july so clear live i must be doing something right or she must be much more tolerant. >> host: in conclusion, let's go back to the -- where we started. can we have an hone