when he was young, simon became obsessed with lions, wanting in particular to be a boy lion. hillary and andrew, as good feminists kept telling simon girls can have adventures, girls can do all these things and be as tough as you want to be and a girl lioness is fierce and does all the hunting. his response was i don't care, i need a mane and i need to be a by lion. hillary explains how she feels when she looks back. that was one of his ways of telling us who he was, by looking outside the species. she sees simon as trying to express that he was really a boy in a variety of ways before she and her husband were ready to hear it. hillary and andrew initially viewed simon as a tomboy but hillary said whenever i saw something about transgender kids in the news, i would automatically send it to my husband andrew, just for your information, just because it seems like we might be heading towards needing to deal with this. hillary undertook the labor of educating both herself and andrew about transgender issues so that they could respond appropriately to simon. although they began to think of simon as transgender, hillary and andrew tried