debra skolnick and harriet cole join us and erica cats is the author of "bonding over beauty."a daughter. we asked people to talk about different milestones in children's lives. when is it okay to allow girls to shave their legs. the survey said age 8, 2%, 12, 71%. my jaw dropped here. i thought we'd say, like, 17. >> i thought 12 was old to shave your legs. a lot of girls are going through puberty at 10. they're getting dark hair on their legs. i think if they want to shave and they come to you, you need to listen to her and be emp thet tick. >> i was shocked, completely. i thought we were getting close to being an adult. if you start shaving you have to shave for the rest of your life. >> if you don't like it, just let it grow back. >> we were close to the truth. it depends on the individual child. if she's being teased, if the hair is visible, talk about options. >> i'm old school. not that young. >> the next one, piercing. when is it okay to allow ear piercing? look at the numbers the parents came up with. i didn't get this. i see a lot of babies with pierced ears. >> i had