tell her that you were part of what i think has been described by one advocacy group, the southern poverty law centreer? i will tell her everything, you know. obviously not maybe all at once, and not when she's tiny. but, as she grows older, she is going to have questions, and i will answer those questions. you know, all i can do is be honest, to explain what i think are the wonderful parts of my upbringing. i will show her the complexity and the nuance of the situation, but i will also be honest about what we did that was so hurtful to so many people, in the hopes that she will avoid going down a similar path. not long before he died, your grandfather, this man who had spent years kind of proselytising this message basically of hate, he was suffering i think from dementia of some kind, came out of the church one day, walked across the road and spoke to the people who had set up i think an lgbt charity opposite the church as a kind of confrontational thing. what do you know that happened that day? what were you told he said to them? it was a different message to the one he usually propagated. yes, so