steff and lyn have been married for 45 years, which is impressive.ve stayed together even after steff's gender reassignment 15 years ago. steff barnett was born steve, but at the age of 50 decided to undergo gender reassignment. the couple had been together since they were 16, married and had two sons. they're still together, albeit in a platonic relationship. they've told seb choudhury about the highs and lows and what it is that has kept them together. lyn misses her husband desperately even now. every day. a man's arms around you, cuddling you, kissing you, protecting you. she stood by me. she was brave enough to do that, despite the fact she just about lost her husband, who she loved passionately. two weeks after they started dating, steve, as he was back then, told lyn something that would have a huge impact on their lives. it was, i like wearing women's clothes. not once was it said, ithink women's clothes. not once was it said, i think i've been born in the wrong body. i had no clue what gender dysmorphia was, but neither of us knew the conseq