in charles city county, there was a list made by john stelton at westover plantation, a plantation that we can go visit today. he listed the children of phyllis, a 34-year-old. she had a 14-year-old daughter named margaret, a one-year-old daughter named patsy. edmund was one-year-old, and there was one person listed as a girl, this one-year-old. they had run off to the union army, and this man recorded their names. imagine what it would be during war to leave all that you had known, the plantation where you had lived and worked and tried to raise your family, to go follow the union army, not knowing what to expect and oftentimes being turned away, not having enough to eat. working where you could, trying to keep your family together. this is what the mother, phyllis, did when she left with her children, and this is what so many other mothers and fathers did. oftentimes fathers went ahead of the mothers to work in contraband camps, and when they could, they got back word to their families that they had made it, and they would send for them. we know, in a later wave, the women and the eld