i'm 22 years old, i was just a teenager three years ago, we're going through puberty, through men stration, but we're also in this phase where your friends are your life. >> yes. >> and how much bullying and peer pressure goes on within your friends you take it out on your mom, the ones you love most. >> when we were teenagers my dad had a phrase that said let the sleeping vipers lie when we were sleeping because we got to be kind of -- >> liked you better when you were sleeping. >> contained asleep. so you have a teenage daughter. weight your advice for those watching about how to speak honestly about the things that we need to? >> with teenagers we hear about helicopter parenting and that hovering over our kids that makes them just want to run away and you know, my theory is we should side up. we figure out things we can do together that we enjoy that's going to allow us to have conversations and relationships and connections. >> if they're pushing you away do you push in? what's the best technique for a lot of moms going through what we saw there? >> sometimes when they are pushing away