we have less trouble following hamlet's dilemma of the surry viscerally -- hamlet's dilemma of a surlyor romeo's or tybalt ioor huck finn or peter pan, and i remember holding that sort up to cook. i felt like him. but it is much, much, much harder for heterosexual boys to identify with juliet or desdemona, wendy in "peter pan," or joe in "little women." or "the little mermaid" org "pocahontas." -- or pocahontas. what, i do not know, but it just is. there is always been a resistance to imaginatively assume a persona, if that persona is a shee. but things are changing now, and is in your generation we are seeing this. men are adapting, about time. they are adapting consciously and also without consciously realizing it for the better of the whole group. they are changing their deepest prejudices to regard as normal the things that their fathers would have found very, very difficult, and their grandfathers would have abhorred, and the door to this emotional shift is embassy. as jung said, "pay attention to the cracks, because that is where the light gets in" -- as leonard cohen says. you,