the moats say he pointed it, first at tamisha, then at ryan., ryan decides it's best to stay outside, hoping the officer will understand their situation. >> you ran a red light. >> we went back and forth for a little bit. and then i realized that i was talking to a wall. i mean, he wasn't going to listen. he didn't care. >> did i not stop at the red light? did i not -- >> stop. and then you just blew the red light. >> i waved the traffic off. >> it was still red. >> and then i turned. >> shut your mouth and listen. >> shut my mouth and listen? is that how you talk to me, dude? >> shut your mouth and listen. >> he was just, like, i can take you to jail, i can tow your car. shut your mouth. all this different stuff that i was thinking that wasn't appropriate for a cop to say to anybody. >> it's decision time for ryan. he knows if he stays he'll probably miss his opportunity to say good-bye and to be there for his wife. >> well, i was thinking i didn't want anything else bad to happen, so i was just trying to stay as calm as possible. >> so, ryan