. >>> when tammy tatum first met jim meadow in longmont, colorado, they were instantly attracted to one another. it wasn't long before the two moved in together and decided to start a family. >> what tammy wanted most in life was to be a wife and a mother. >> tammy gave birth to a healthy baby girl they named sadie, but soon after the baby's arrival, the couple's life took a downward turn. >> jim meadow had a major substance abuse issue. he would get drunk and get into scrapes. he had numerous duis. >> jim also got into a serious altercation at a local food store. >> he was drinking. he got into a fight with a customer at that store. actually tried to choke the customer. >> jim was charged with disorderly conduct and soon his violence was directed at tammy. >> according to friends, there was often abuse in the relationship. jim meadow getting intoxicated and striking out at tammy. there were actual reports also of him strangling her. >> it was a very violent, abusive relationship. and you know, she had confided in me and talked to me about this before. my mother was aware of it. my moth