. >> ryan, i think theyty, they would say marriage is love. >> right. >> so could you address marriage is love? >> three people can love each other, and you can love each oh while also sleeping with other people, and you can love each other for a temporary time period. i love lots of people that i'm not married to, right? [laughter] so the idea is that marital love is a distinct type of love, so what distinguishes majority until love from this amorphous love equals love, right? and i think one of the biggest downsides of just equating marriage with love and this kind of ambiguous sense is that it actually belittles other forms of serious human relationship. we used to have a much richer tradition of friendship than we do. we now just view marriage as the most intention relationship that you can have in life and everything else as lesser forms. so as a result, if you're not married, it means you haven't yet reached the peak of human existence, and it makes your friendships seem less valuable. when you read through diaries and journals from prior parts of history, you see lots of people