. >> here to help us is founder of whatmattersmost.com, thomas farley. a shoutout on neighbor issues and our page exploded. people really have got some -- >> issues. >> first question, only give initials, first question is from m. i never found a good way to get a neighbor to control an overactive barking dog. is there any good way to deal with this that doesn't alienate the neighbors. >> here is an area where you have to be concerned not just about your own safety, sometimes, but the dog itself. the dog could be in distress and that's the reason it is barking. the neighbor is not there, he or she may not be aware the barking is going on. the first thing you want to do, people treat their dogs like their kids. don't ever go on the attack about it. bring it up in a way where you're concerned. >> like what? >> like how? >> i know you're at work all day long, i'm home and i'm hearing your dog barking. i'm a little worried, is the dog okay? you come from a place of concern. >> the dog is fine. >> the dog's fine, thank you. thanks for asking. thank you for yo

etiquette expert thomas farley is from whatmattersmost.com. this is a can of worms.t saw, but the whole asking someone if they're pregnant is almost never okay. >> well, it's just -- it's a land mine. >> unless you're 1,000% sure that this is the case. >> unless you're the ob/gyn delivering the baby, don't ask, right? >> exactly. and the same goes after the woman has given birth. you don't want to ask her when are you having the baby? >> mine field. i've had that happen. four months ago was the answer. it's not good. it's never good. is it ever okay for someone to reach out and touch your belly, or must you be invited to do so? >> you want to be invited. and typically the woman will guide your hand to the belly. you want to wait for that invite. can you imagine walking down the street and somebody decides to touch your hair? that doesn't happen. nobody would think of doing that. same with the belly. even more so. >> on the flip side, is it rude of a pregnant woman to say oh, the baby's kicking, do you want to feel? >> it's a very special moment. i think if you've got