tiffany haywood: i think i'm the "them." i'm the other person's parents because we have gotten to the point where we say "yes" to everything. our whole foundation was i started working when i was 13. my mother literally the day after my birthday took me to get my working papers. >> oh, wow. tiffany: 13 years old. and she had the job lined up already. >> wow! bao: she knew the guy at the store who could give me a job. so like i worked forever, my husband was the same way so when we had kids, we were like, we don't want them to work. we want them to enjoy being a kid. >> sure. tiffany: yeah. but now it's backfiring just a little bit. bao: i grew up with... tiffany: because i kind of want them to work. rachel: reign it in a little bit. tiffany: there's money behind everything you have. jen: just not enough to get everything. tiffany: exactly. they don't understand that there's a work behind it. jen: and a value to it. tiffany: exactly. so they tend to break things a little more quickly bao: i grew up hearing a lot of "no" in my

tiffany haywood: the car fairy just comes and drops it off. pam: so i'm trying to explain to them and teach them that, no, it doesn't -- it's just not the way it works. rachel garceau: it's the entitlement factor. and that entitlement is so prevalent and it's hard. it's this keeping up with the joneses thing but we see it in our children, which i think, you know, when a lot of us were kids, i don't know that there was that much to keep up with. you know, there wasn't the technology and the phones and the cars and all that stuff. so i feel like i'm still working on this with my kids that are eight and eleven. i'm good at saying "no" but sometimes i have to think about why i'm saying "no" as well. probably need to say "yes" sometimes as well, but it is a struggle. it's a struggle to know -- yeah. jen lennon: but i don't want to keep up with sometimes. because i don't like some of the trends that i'm seeing. pam: yeah. jen: whether it's the class selections that i feel like my kids are supposed to take because everybody else is or whether it's th

tiffany haywood; you lost me at all the letters. i was already gone. bao: all those letters. jen: what do you guys do? i feel like every time i take a turn, if i touch something it's probably gonna kill my child. >> so true. pam: it is overwhelming and i think that -- i don't have a good answer. i think i change week to week sometimes. for one week i just think a balanced meal, if i get a vegetable on the table, i'm feeling pretty good about myself. then i think, but oh my gosh, what about all the processed foods i feed them? i should be working more on getting the processed foods out and shopping the exterior of the grocery store. jen: and there are legitimate reasons that you do have to look at those labels, certainly if your child has a life threatening allergy or something like that. wendy thies: right. i have a daughter who has type 1 diabetes so i have to look at every label, see how carbohydrates are in each label, does it have a lot of sugar? is she gonna go high from this? so i'm used to looking at the labels now because i have to. i have no choice. jen: and they're

tiffany brainard, who we showed in january, was wanted in both haywood and henderson counties, was also arrested this week as well. 3 3 3 3 3 a health alert this morning... for pet owners in hendersonville. officers believe raccoons are infected with "distemper." they say at least four have been spotted near downtown displaying odd behavior, as if the animals are drunk. the virus is highly contagious between the animals, and can easily be the state wildlife resources commission says raccoons in other mountain counties are showing similar symptoms. 3 sgt. brandon mcgaha 10:30:14-23 they've had some confirmed cases of distemper in haywood and buncombe counties. based on the symptoms that the racoons in our area are showing, they believe it's the same disease. the best way to project your pets from the disease is to make sure they are up-to-date on their vaccinations. 3 3 a family from buncombe county says runoff from a new apartment development is flooding their property. shirley terry and her husband say their driveway washed out ... exposing an electrical wire and a water pipe. they say

tiffany brainard who we showed in january was wanted in both haywood and henderson counties, was also arrested this week as well. 3 3 3 now let's take a look at some stories making headlines this morning... a tennessee town came together to pray for a police officer shot and wounded while chasing robbery suspects. hundreds of people joined a vigil for corporal derrick couch in clarksdale thursday. police say he was shot in the head after responding to a report that two men were robbing a gas station sunday. both suspects were later arrested, and now face attempted murder and robbery charges. 3 flint, michigan will get an extra two-million dollars to help replace its antiquated lead water pipes - the deteriorating pipes contributed to the contamination of the city's drinking water supply. the grant money is coming from the state's distressed cities fund. flint's mayor karen weaver wants to start removing the lead pipes immediately but the governor wants an engineering company to map the pipes before tearing them out. 3 federal police arrested a missouri woman - accusing her of making t

tiffany brainard, who we showed in january, was wanted in both haywood county and henderson county, she was arrested this week as well. >> jay: we have a big update this morning in duke energy's efforts to switch its lake julian power plant from comb to natural gas. the staff of the north carolina utilities commission now recommended rejecting duke's proposal to build a third unite there. the commission does not have to follow the staff's recommendation though. but, mountain true says it's a duke's plan. >> we are hopeful. i think it's a good sign, the staff's recommendation is definitely a step in the right direction. we hope the staff moves in this direction. >> jay: the utilities commission is expected to make a decision by march 1st. >>> our morning team has been paying it forward all week long for international random acts of kindness week. >> holly: news 13's lauren brigman and jaclyn deaugustino head to dunkin' donuts to try to inspire the giving spirit. >> jaclyn: we are at dunkin' donuts for random acts of kindness week. >> lauren: we are paying for people's breakfast and coffe