. >> tina holland is another friend. their youngest children started attending the same school. they planned family vacations together and trips to disney land and one year pamela bought her daughter andson's costumes for the sake of creating happy memories. >> she wanted to make sure her friends were happy and taken care of. no matter what it took and i realized that when i first met her that, you know, she was one of the people i was going to have as a lifetime friend. >>> pam made and sold jewelry and she worked hard at it but she wanted more than that. >> she wanted happiness and not to be alone. her dreams were to have a family life and find a mate to share her life with that would love her children. >> which is why it seemed so perfect when in 1989 an electrician named jim came into her life. he was single, no children. >> they seemed to get along very well. and it seemed to be a very good fit. >> but more importantly was that pam treated desiree as if she were his own. >> he came into our lives when i was about 6 years old. they started dating and slowly she started intro