paul, captain paul toland. bad advice by his jag. -- here's a guy that was given bad advice by his jag. he was deployed to yokohama, his wife, sadly, has passed away and now the grandmother has sole custody or, or at least de facto and he hasn't been able to see his daughter erica for all these years like you, jeffrey. all these years, and a gross violation of his human rights, his daughter's human rights and, and there's so many others like that and you know, it, it breaks you. i don't know how you persist. i, i, i can't say how much i admire your courage and your strength because you're not just helping yourself and you are trying to help your daughter, your son, i should say, but you're helping all the other people who have been left behind as well. michael elias, my chief of staff, mary and i went to japan, with michael elias's mother because we thought that might be less confrontational to have her tried to visit with their kids, two of them. and we were shown the door, you know, it, it, it was outrageous