he had no empathy for himself. >> what about tom hayden. >> i don't understand tom. ted, i can understand. i don't understand tom. he is -- i don't regret a minute of the 17 years we were together. and we have a wonderful son. but i don't know why he is the way he is. >> and if you had a conversation with him today,ou would not be able to -- >> i wouldn't know where to start. >> when you were 50 he came and said he was in love with another woman. >> yeah, on my birthday. he was brave. i would never have had the guts to do it. it was not a good marriage. he was brave to do it. >> but you admired him because of his intellect because he was -- because you believed in his principals. >> yeah. >> you learn a lot from everybody. i mean you are a learner. >> i am. >> you really are. >> that's why i love to write because i love to study and drill down into things. and i really think -- you know, men, men have read this book and oh, my god this is for men too. and 40-year-olds have read it. >> it's about living your life to the fullest and understanding that everything needs

be unknown to the majority of the rest of us the truth is this these numbers came from piece the tom hayden show over common dreams. and other sites as well that you know those were his mention we're spending sixteen billion dollars a month sixteen billion dollars a month in afghanistan and what does it bind us the number of soldiers we have rooted since the afghan war started nine thousand nine hundred seventy one including iraq forty one thousand american soldiers wounded. the number of soldiers killed in afghanistan fourteen hundred thirty seven including iraq fifty eight hundred fifty nine. nurse soldiers killed in afghanistan under george bush this was the entire era from two thousand and one to two thousand and eight six hundred thirty. whatever of soldiers killed in afghanistan under obama in the last two years eight hundred seven tell me this war is going well. and that's the that's the last horse ok so get back to us so we are we're likely now to spend over one trillion dollars one trillion dollars in a country with a pre-invasion g.d.p. of two billion i just think about this for a