the fbi's tony kravith switched strategies. >> we had three drops go bad but we wanted to give them ated to give them a way out. >> what was the way out you offered? >> nobody has been hurt. if they drop you off somewhere, if they just let you go, nobody will know the difference. >> just let her go? >> just let her go. >> monday morning turned into afternoon. quinn's mom seemed to be getting desperate. she sent a text on her own to the kidnappers, without fbi approval. "i am heartbroken, and girls probably no longer have a mother. you have no heart. and i pray that what goes around comes around." >> she was angry. she was tired. she was worried. >> angry at you? >> angry at all of us, i think. we weren't able to bring her daughter home yet. >> throughout the ordeal, reid gray, who was pushed into the background after the kidnappers said they didn't want to deal with him anymore, had been alternately upset and angry as well. detective howard cole spent some time with quinn's husband. >> i think there was times when he actually wanted to go get the money out of his own bank account and