and then you do this film-- you know, "a sweet transvestite from transylvania." where was your agent? where was your manager, saying, "what are you doing?" well, i think they figured out early enough that they were just there as a sounding board, and i think you have to go from your heart, and if there's one thing i've learned when people ask me that are aspiring actors, you know, "what should i do?" i say, "look, you know, follow your heart, "and do the stories that you want to tell, and--because, really, there's no rules." so many of the things that have ended up being really important in my career-- not to mention the fact that every time i have a child, i have to take off over a year. you know, i've just broken every rule you possibly could-- it just goes to show you that, you know, you should never do what you think is the right thing. you have to really listen to that little voice and think, "well, you know, "i don't know what's going to happen with this one, "and why not? let's give it a--" and i've just been really lucky that way. you must have been liste