tuli, as we're calling her, is not alone.south africa reported being raped. when we were out and having drinks, they were spending all this money on me and i was feeling like i was special, so when it happened i blamed myself because i thought ijust spent all of this man's money on me. i did not stand up for myself. that is the case with many girls here in south africa. using the rainbow chatbot has now helped tuli to recognise her rights. what looking through it did for me and can do for others is that a person needs to consent before a person touches you, you need to be ok with that. had i known that i would have known that people had crossed boundaries and maybe i would have been able to stop it. after levels of abuse rose around the globe during lockdown, numerous celebrity and social media influencers decided to help raise awareness of the issue. in south africa, tendaiishe chitima, star of the netflix film cook 0ff, decided to add her support to the rainbow chatbot, which now has some 18,000 users. i had an ex—partner w