the memories, the experiences, disillusionment, being broke and feeling underappreciated an. justiciar psychological effect ofch covering war. so there were a few tens banners as they tried to tease out of out me what was troubling me.. and it was always pretty. >> host: war is boring by david xe axe. theamerican library is publisher. where the gun next? >> host: i have not decided.ed every time i come home from allm wars and i have announced that i f.tired i give me six weeks and i will emerge from retirement. >> host: take you for being on book tv in miami. >> every weekend book tv brings to 48 hours of history, biography, and public affairs. here is a portion of one of our programs. >> why when we hear the president and others talking about the fact that we must make government efficient the people did our founding fathers actually designed the government to be inefficient? esters of that question. this is a model for inefficiency it was done deliberately. why? because in order to have basic liberties you have to have the cover of its with very little power. the more effic

and lastly you're just feeling underappreciated. all this stuff that you're doing.ing anything back. these are all really important things to know about whether or not you want to stay in a relationship, because if you're not getting those things you don't want to be there. >> so fundamental building blocks? >> exactly. >> and looking for red flags. if you ultimately make that decision to move on, what should you do as an individual? >> it's so hard to move on. it's so hard to make those decisions. and the first thing you really want to do is weigh the pros and cons. maybe there are things that you haven't thought about. maybe a concrete list. and see which side weighs more heavi heavily. and then you really want to take a minute and look at yourself. self-reflect. what are you bringing to the relationship that might be impacting things with the other person. then if you've decided you don't really want to stay, be honest but not blaming. so you want to be able to say look, this isn't working for me. i need to take care of myself and go. or you need to say, these ar

you talk about the mainstream media and how is underappreciated. why did the media -- the old media overlooked this trend? >> guest: they didn't want to see it. earlier this year scott brown had a stunning electorate victory in massachusetts for ted kennedy sophie. polling has showed be a competitive race and they never covered it as a competitive race until the final couple of days because it is incomprehensible to them the democrats could lose the lead. so much of the tea party movement is in that same category. they can't believe people are unhappy with the policies of the federal government. >> guest: they know, i am startled us a look at the data. i see the level of activism rightly points to scott brown. you could point to share an angle or paul marco rubio. the list goes on. and for some reason the media has not wanted to give the tea party movement credit now. for goodness sake come you don't have to be a supporter of christine o'donnell or share an angle to recognize the vibrancy of of the tea party movement. >> host: utile and in the code